What’s Really Going On Behind a Man’s Commitment Issues

Countless chick flicks have tried to teach us this lesson, but it seems to be something we must relearn again and again.

How long are we going to brush away men’s commitment issues with, “He’s just not ready?”

While there might be some internal struggles or childhood baggage behind a man’s hesitation, the truth is – if he wanted to, he would.

This isn’t really about timing; it’s about intención. 

By making up excuses for him, you’re just trying not to face the harsh truth: he’s not invested enough in you.

The Comfort Zone You Created

If a man truly wants to be in a committed relationship with you, nothing can stop him. 

He’ll go far and beyond to show you that he cares. But if he’s not doing that, it’s probably because he doesn’t feel the need to.

He’s happy to stay in his comfort zone, where he gets all your affection and attention without having to make a choice.

He chooses to keep you around and keep his options open – and you let him.

It’s his choice not to commit to you, but it’s your choice to stay even when he doesn’t.

Tolerating Low Effort

It can be quite a blow to your ego when someone doesn’t see your actual worth, especially if it’s someone you really like.

A man who won’t fully commit is someone who simply doesn’t value you enough to make you his priority.

And the moment you accept crumbs and partial attention, you’re letting him know it’s okay to keep you on the back burner.

This kind of thing can really mess you up, because, over time, it makes you wonder if you really aren’t so especial y unimportant.

But this is a cycle only you can break. Demand real investment, and if you get anything less, leave and never look back.

The more you set this boundary for yourself, the more you’ll attract people who’ll be happy to commit to you.

Does He Have a Reason to Commit?

Think about it: if you’re always available, always giving, never making him work for your attention, why would he bother to commit?

Since your presence and love are guaranteed either way, why would he invest more than he has to?

Put yourself in those shoes; if your boss paid you a full salary without expecting you to do any work, would you ever work?

Men who take their sweet time making this decision often do so because they’re getting everything they want – without the responsibility.

You allow them to enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without getting anything real in return.

Trying to Change for Him Won’t Help

Once you start thinking that you’re the one who needs to change here, you’re far too gone.

You cater to his needs, you do your hair the way he likes, you’re always in a good mood…

Este performance will get you nowhere. It will only drain your energy and make you even more desperate.

And, to make matters worse, it only reinforces to him that you’re far too interested to ever leave. Now you’re even farther from ever getting commitment!

Don’t do this to yourself. If you take some time, you’ll surely find someone who won’t need to be persuaded to devote themselves to you – they’ll be happy to.

He’s Unavailable to You

It’s hard to come to terms with something like this.

You like someone, you put in a lot of effort and time into your relationship, and it turns out you’re no more than a side character to them.

A man who withholds commitment is not unavailable – he’s only unavailable to you.

He’s not avoiding making it official because of timing or a bad experience from the past; he’s avoiding it because he doesn’t see the point.

You’re not as important to him as he is to you, and that’s okay, but you can’t let him waste any more of your time.

His actions show you exactly what his priorities are.

Don’t Fall for Potential

Getting caught up in the idea that he might change is a trap. It keeps you stuck, and makes you read too much into what little affection you get.

You’re investing in something that will likely never happen. 

Instead of waiting around for him to reach his potential, focus on the here and now. 

Does he show up consistently? Does he prioritize you? Or is he just giving you enough to keep you around?

The right person for you is someone you’ll be able to accept as they are, because they will show up in all the ways you need.

It’s time to stop making choices based on ilusiones. If what you want is commitment, and you’re not getting it, move on.

Value Your Time and Energy

Every moment you spend trying to change his mind gets you farther and farther away from commitment.

He starts to see you as someone who’s desesperado and without any other options.

You shouldn’t have to chase or convince him of worth – he should already see it.

Your time and energy are precious, so don’t waste them on anyone who isn’t willing to meet you halfway. 

Focus on yourself, your family, your work, and eventually, you’ll find someone who’s eager to be with you.

Choose Clarity

It’s easy to get caught up in reading into his signs of affection, playful texts, or small gestures, and think it must mean something more.

But, truth be told, you’re fooling yourself.

Deep down, you know all those things mean nothing since he doesn’t show up for you in any way that matters. 

He might as well like you – just not enough to ever commit to you.

Sea honest with yourself, and look for clarity. If he’s not making it exclusive and making you his priority, get out of there.

Protect your heart, and keep in mind that you deserve to be someone who’ll be impatient to make you his girlfriend.

Let the unavailable man take his shenanigans elsewhere.