Almost everyone has self-defeating beliefs, which feel real but hold back our growth. These beliefs are not willful lies; they are created over time due to life experiences, personality, and how we cope with emotions.
As a result, they become the inner stories we tell ourselves. In addition to life experiences, people often share similar emotional experiences based on the month they were born in.
Here is the lie that many people will have in their lives as a result of their birth month.
1. January
“I have to be strong all the time.”
People born in January hold the misconception that being vulnerable is a sign of being weak. They carry the burden of feeling obligated to keep everything organized, which can trap them in an emotional state of constant guarding.
Although someone can exhibit physical strength, the need to always remain in control will often limit their ability to provide and receive emotional support and intimacy.
By requesting support, you do not lose the trust of others; rather, you are actually creating a more profound form of respect. Creating this connection actually enhances resilience.
2. February
“I don’t need anyone.”
February-born individuals commonly consider independence important. They often mistakenly think they must be emotionally detached from others and that independence equals freedom.
However, connection will not diminish someone’s individuality. In fact, believing that independence is equivalent to freedom can cause them to isolate themselves, even while claiming to be self-sufficient.
It’s okay to depend on others without compromising one’s individual personality.
3. March
“If I feel it, it must be true.”
People born in March are intuitive in nature, but their emotions can overshadow reality. Because of this, March-born people may tend to mistakenly think that every emotion is an absolute truth, rather than a signal.
Just as reading a novel or interpreting someone’s actions takes careful examination of all the nuances and variables, emotions need to be examined carefully before one takes any action based upon them.
March-borns have extreme emotional depth, but it is extremely important to ensure that their interpretation is accurate.
4. April
“I’ll deal with it later.”
People born in April could be fooled into thinking that their natural momentum would carry them through processing their emotions.
The illusion may seem helpful at first, but that kind of avoidance creates accumulation and doesn’t allow any of those feelings to dissipate.
To avoid burnout, you must deal with your issues when you first notice they exist. To truly have courage, you must also have the ability to look inside yourself before taking action.
5. May
“Stability means staying the same.”
People born in May usually want to have an unchanging way of life. However, people mistakenly believe that change can bring about disasters in their lives.
It is important to remember that growth makes us more stable, not less so. When May-borns maintain their daily routines rigidly, they limit their opportunities and growth.
On the other hand, true security evolves and adjusts with changing times.
6. June
“If I explain enough, I’ll be understood.”
June-born individuals believe clarity solves everything. This false belief causes them to overly explain their feelings, and they may have difficulty understanding that comprehending does not come by repeating oneself.
Sometimes, it is easier to set boundaries than it is to explain yourself multiple times over.
You do not have to provide justification for your feelings repeatedly; however, you do have to validate yourself before you can be truly heard by others.
7. July
“My needs come last.”
People born in July commonly prioritize others before themselves. It’s a misconception that sacrificing yourself is a reflection of love.
This leads to emotional suffering after many years of this pattern. Taking care of yourself does not decrease your ability to love others but instead helps maintain your ability to love them in the future.
To truly love others, you do not have to erase yourself.
8. August
“If I’m not impressive, I’m invisible.”
August-born people see value through their presence and the effect they have had on the lives of others.
Another false belief is that rest and silence equal less value. Your worth is never lost just because you are not showing.
When you are in a position of presenting your authentic self is when the authenticity of your confidence builds.
9. September
“If it’s not perfect, it’s wrong.”
People born in September tend towards living up to their own high standards. This mindset can create stress and pressure while preventing them from reaching their best potential.
Living in a way that expects ‘perfection’ creates blockages to progress and happiness. Learning and developing through mistakes is not to be viewed as ‘failure,’ but rather as steps to personal refinement.
Being comfortable with imperfection will foster personal growth and movement forward as an individual.
10. October
“Keeping the peace keeps me safe.”
You need to understand that harmony is not achieved through silence but instead is lost because of it.
Avoiding confrontation will foster resentment within everyone involved in your life.
The falsehood behind harmony was that it could coexist with dishonesty. We cannot find true peace through it; balance involves speaking up, even when it disrupts calmness.
11. November
“If I stay guarded, I won’t get hurt.”
The idea of protecting yourself through walls surrounds many November-born people. A wall stops a lot of pain, and distance may help prevent pain.
But it also stops intimacy. Vulnerability increases the potential for pain but creates emotional depth and connection with others.
When you guard your heart completely, you also shut out any potential for connection. Trust is built through being open with yourself and with others.
12. December
“Everything will work out on its own.”
People born in December are able to get through life with a healthy dose of positivity. The falsehood is that hope replaces effort; faith is great, but so is taking action.
Hiding from our responsibilities behind a mask of positivity stops us from progressing.
Hope is best when combined with intention, so your challenge is to trust yourself enough to take action.
Born and raised in Bosnia and Herzegovina. Ever since I was a little girl, my imagination knew no bounds. I remember vividly how I’d scribble down short stories, each page bursting with adventures and characters conjured up from the whimsy of my mind. These stories weren’t just for me; they were my way of connecting with my friends, offering them a slice of my fantasy world during our playtimes. The joy and excitement on their faces as we dived into my fictional realms motivated me to keep writing. This early passion for storytelling naturally evolved into my pursuit of writing, turning a childhood hobby into a fulfilling career.