{"id":114017,"date":"2026-06-12T21:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-06-12T19:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=114017"},"modified":"2026-06-12T12:56:04","modified_gmt":"2026-06-12T10:56:04","slug":"avoidants-crave-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/es\/avoidants-crave-love\/","title":{"rendered":"What Avoidants Actually Crave in Love"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:72%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:71.416666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Dating someone with an avoidant attachment style can really mess with your head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Even if you were never the one to chase attention and validation, suddenly, you turn into this needy, pushy, overwhelming partner because you can&rsquo;t see any other way!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your self-esteem suffers, and they feel stifled; everyone loses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But there is a simple way to <strong>change the dynamic<\/strong> and let them be the one who does the chasing: <strong>leave them be<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It sounds strange, but bear with me!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. The Initial Shock<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114084\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"864\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114084\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-300x216.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-1024x737.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-768x553.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-960x691.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-1080x777.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-170x122.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"864\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20864'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='864'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114084 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-300x216.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-1024x737.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-768x553.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-960x691.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-1080x777.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-3-170x122.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/search\/drinking%20alcohol\/?orientation=landscape\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Avoidants are used to a very specific script when it comes to dating.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They always need more space than their partners are willing to give, so when they pull back, they fully <strong>expect you to chase<\/strong> ellos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your pleas and desperate texts at 3 AM <strong>validate their belief<\/strong> that love is suffocating and that everyone needs too much from them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But when you don&rsquo;t chase?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">For a moment, they don&rsquo;t even know how to take it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They finally feel like someone <strong>respects their space<\/strong>, but to be frank, it also terrifies them a little bit.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You took away their main point; now they can no longer accuse you of being too much.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Being Unbothered<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114081\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114081\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114081 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/search\/drinking%20alcohol\/?orientation=landscape\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When someone is genuinely okay with them, avoidants kind of lose their minds.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They&rsquo;re used to being the prize and being the one people can&rsquo;t live without. But when you move on and actually seem happy, they <strong>start spiraling<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is a blow to their ego that you are functioning perfectly fine even though they&rsquo;re not around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They&rsquo;re used to people falling apart when they leave, so your reaction sparks a curiosity they simply can&rsquo;t shake.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And now, you finally <strong>have their interest<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">People who don&rsquo;t mind giving them space and are a bit mysterious typically get to avoidants.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">At the same time, the possibility of you moving on while they play their games scares them, so they rush in to keep your attention while it&rsquo;s still available.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Understanding Them<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114083\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"857\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2.jpg\" alt=\"avoidant couple\" class=\"wp-image-114083\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-300x214.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-1024x732.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-768x549.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-960x686.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-1080x772.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-170x121.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"857\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20857'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='857'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"avoidant couple\" class=\"wp-image-114083 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-300x214.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-1024x732.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-768x549.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-960x686.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-1080x772.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-2-170x121.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here&rsquo;s why they really start wanting you: They finally feel understood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Usted <strong>didn&rsquo;t try to fix them<\/strong> or make them feel like there&rsquo;s something wrong with them. You simply respect your own time too much to chase, that&rsquo;s all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You accepted them as they are, a bit emotionally constipated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Most people like the potential of an avoidant person, but few love them as they are. They know exactly how rare that is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That unconditional acceptance feels like safety, so they won&rsquo;t risk losing you again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Avoidants Hate Drama (Even If They Cause It)<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114085\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114085\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114085 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Avoidants <em>evite<\/em> conflict, among other things.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They have feelings and complaints, just like you, but you must understand that they don&rsquo;t <strong>process negative emotions<\/strong> like the rest of us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To them, it&rsquo;s a failure; a sign that the whole relationship is a disaster.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can try explaining and nagging, but all they&rsquo;ll hear is that they&rsquo;re not good enough. Essentially, you&rsquo;re asking too much again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But when you walk away, there is no space left for conflict.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ironically, this is when <strong>they feel peace<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By giving them this, you show them what they&rsquo;re missing, and then they start chasing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You prove that you can be calm, that you aren&rsquo;t the crazy ex they couldn&rsquo;t get away from.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. The One That Got Away<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114082\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114082\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114082 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/avoidant-attchment-love-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/search\/drinking%20alcohol\/?orientation=landscape\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Avoidants are notorious for <strong>idealizing relationships<\/strong> they dismantled.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As long as someone keeps trying, pining for validation, they remain uninterested. But once people finally give up, that&rsquo;s when they start thinking about how good they had it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They start romanticizing the relationship, forgetting all those times they ran away because things got too overbearing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, when you allow them to lose you and stay unbothered, you become the one that got away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now you&rsquo;re the one they always want, simply because they couldn&rsquo;t have you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It&rsquo;s textbook avoidant behavior, and I know it&rsquo;s toxic and wrong, but they don&rsquo;t do it on purpose; it&rsquo;s just <strong>pathology<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. They Can Smell Your Desperation<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-114022\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114022\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-114022 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/more-aware-tricks-6-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/search\/drinking%20alcohol\/?orientation=landscape\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Secure attachment<\/strong> is crucial if you want an avoidant to crave a relationship with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The main issue is that you can&rsquo;t possibly fake this. Acting unbothered while hiding your desperation will never work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">They can sense neediness from a mile away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, if you&rsquo;re not honestly prepared to lose them and be okay with that, don&rsquo;t even bother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You have to reach a level of secure attachment where their absence doesn&rsquo;t dismantle your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is deeply attractive to them because they don&rsquo;t have to validate you; you&rsquo;re perfectly capable of <strong>validating yourself<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Here&rsquo;s something we can all understand: avoidants <strong>want to be wanted<\/strong>, not needed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. Adopt Fishing Mentality<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-113201\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-113201\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-113201 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/happy-kindness-friends-10-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/search\/drinking%20alcohol\/?orientation=landscape\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A relationship with an avoidant requires<strong> patience and strategy<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Much like fishing, if you&rsquo;re too eager, you&rsquo;ll fail. They&rsquo;ll get scared and run for the hills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But if you sit quietly and wait, they will come to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, stop trying to <strong>force the connection<\/strong>. If it happens, great, but if it doesn&rsquo;t, you&rsquo;ll be fine, anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can&rsquo;t convince them that they should want to be caught. They have to reach that conclusion on their own.&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating someone with an avoidant attachment style can really mess with your head. 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