{"id":90110,"date":"2025-11-06T16:30:00","date_gmt":"2025-11-06T14:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=90110"},"modified":"2025-11-06T12:21:09","modified_gmt":"2025-11-06T10:21:09","slug":"minds-parents-hate-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/es\/minds-parents-hate-children\/","title":{"rendered":"Inside the Minds of Parents Who Hate Their Children"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p>Parenting is difficult, and so rarely picture-perfect. Even the most loving parents make mistakes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But what about a different story &ndash; one of pain, frustration, and even hatred?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a hard thing to imagine, but some parents really do struggle with <strong>resentment or dislike<\/strong> towards their children.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Let&rsquo;s try to understand what goes on in their minds, and what experiences or deep-seated issues led them to hate their own children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Projecting Pain and Frustration onto the Child<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89318\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89318\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89318 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Many parents who harbor negative feelings aren&rsquo;t necessarily bad people; they&rsquo;re simply overwhelmed by their own pain.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Perhaps life threw a lot at them: <strong>loss, failure, trauma, <\/strong>o <strong>salud mental<\/strong> luchas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When a parent is drowning in unresolved frustration, they might unconsciously take it out on their kids.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In their mind, the child becomes a mirror for their own unhealed wounds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Though unfair, this projection isn&rsquo;t always intentional. In fact, it&rsquo;s often a subconscious <strong>mecanismo de defensa<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The parent might see the child as a reminder of their own broken dreams or failures, and that can breed resentment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Realizing Too Late That Parenthood Isn&rsquo;t for Them<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-88260\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2.jpg\" alt=\"zodiac love difficult\" class=\"wp-image-88260\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"zodiac love difficult\" class=\"wp-image-88260 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/zodiac-signs-love-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Some people come to realize, only after the fact, that they didn&rsquo;t really want to have children.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe they <strong>felt pressured<\/strong>, or they entered parenthood <strong>emotionally unprepared<\/strong>. This realization can breed feelings of guilt, fear of missing out, or even hatred.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In their mind, they&rsquo;re trapped in a situation they never chose for themselves, and that frustration can spill over onto the child.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a painful realization that can lead to emotional <strong>distance or resentment<\/strong>, even if they realistically know the child isn&rsquo;t to blame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Parents in this situation often struggle with guilt and shame, as well as regret when they realize it&rsquo;s much too late to change their minds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Child&rsquo;s Adolescence<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-88233\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg\" alt=\"resentment angry woman\" class=\"wp-image-88233\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"resentment angry woman\" class=\"wp-image-88233 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>When children hit their teenage years, some parents feel like they&rsquo;re <strong>perder el control<\/strong>, and their minds race with negative feelings.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Adolescence is a time of independence, rebellion, and self-discovery, which can feel like a threat to parents who want to hold on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>More immature parents might interpret their child&rsquo;s independence as rejection, leading to feelings of <strong>abandonment or betrayal<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This can turn into anger or hate, especially when a parent feels powerless to change anything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The child&rsquo;s autonomy is interpreted as defiance in the parent&rsquo;s mind, and it creates a rift.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This emotional disconnect can make parents see their teen kids as a symbol of everything they dislike and fear, leading to confusing, unhealthy emotions.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Unmet Expectations<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-87327\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-87327\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-87327 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Most parents have hopes and dreams for their children, and when those aren&rsquo;t fulfilled, some handle it worse than others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The child becomes a symbol of unfulfilled expectations &ndash; an extension of the parent&rsquo;s own failures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si <strong>love feels conditional<\/strong>, resentment can easily fester.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While in their mind, these parents might think they&rsquo;re doing it for the child&rsquo;s well-being, their affection can turn into a weapon.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This kind of relationship damages the <strong>child&rsquo;s sense of worth<\/strong>. This dynamic creates a toxic environment, where familial love isn&rsquo;t unconditional.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a heartbreaking cycle that&rsquo;s rooted in unmet needs and emotional wounds.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Subconscious Projection of Past Relationships<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-87325\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1188\" height=\"792\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-87325\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7.jpg 1188w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1188\" height=\"792\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201188%20792'%3E%3Crect%20width='1188'%20height='792'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-87325 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7.jpg 1188w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/self-doubt-body-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; 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