{"id":125314,"date":"2026-11-04T20:00:00","date_gmt":"2026-11-04T18:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=125314"},"modified":"2026-11-04T14:09:35","modified_gmt":"2026-11-04T12:09:35","slug":"stages-self-abandonment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/stages-self-abandonment\/","title":{"rendered":"12 Stages of Self-Abandonment (And How to Find Your Way Back)"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:56.25%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:74.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:66.75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:56.34765625%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:74.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-10::before{padding-top:56.25%; }img#mv-trellis-img-10{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-11::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-11{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-12::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-12{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-13::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-13{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Self-abandonment sneaks into your life quietly, which is why most people notice they&rsquo;re doing it only after it&rsquo;s started running their lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Before you know it, you start settling for things you don&rsquo;t want and <strong>stifling your own voice<\/strong> to keep the peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When it goes too far, you realize you can&rsquo;t even name your needs and wants anymore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There are 12 stages to self-abandonment. Read carefully and be objective about where you are on the list.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Knowing exactly what to look for can help you <strong>break the pattern<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Forcing Yourself to Be Flexible<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-120918\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-120918\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20675'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='675'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-120918 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/08\/woman-work-stressed-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shutterstock.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Shutterstock<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This one starts so small you barely notice. It happens when you start choosing what others want over what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You go to the restaurants other people prefer, and the weekend plans are often made and sent to you without much consideration.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Self-abandonment happens when you choose not to say anything.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Each time you choose to let things be, you tell yourself to be cool and that you&rsquo;re a generous person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The people who profit from your self-abandonment might honestly appreciate what you do for them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It becomes a serious problem when flexibility becomes your default.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You make yourself so agreeable that wanting something different starts to feel like conflict.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This stage is easy to get lost in because people tend to <strong>praise you for it<\/strong>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Prioritizing Others&rsquo; Needs Constantly<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-117231\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"896\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-117231\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress.png 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-16x12.png 16w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-960x717.png 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-1080x806.png 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-170x127.png 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"896\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20896'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='896'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-117231 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress.png\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress.png\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress.png 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-300x224.png 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-1024x765.png 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-768x573.png 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-16x12.png 16w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-960x717.png 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-1080x806.png 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/07\/7-woman-pausing-stress-170x127.png 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/\">&copy; Angelynum<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The second stage of self-abandonment comes when putting yourself last becomes a reflex.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Everyone else&rsquo;s needs come before your own so often that it <strong>starts to feel natural<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You answer the late-night texts, cover the shift, lend the money, listen to the problems, and then collapse with nothing left for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might have learned at some point that being needed means to be loved, so you extend yourself to others without thinking twice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And when you need something?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You approach it with apologies and shame, as though <strong>your needs<\/strong> are an <strong>inconvenience<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The issue is that other people treat us as we treat ourselves. So, if your needs are inconvenient to you, they become inconvenient to everyone else, as well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Losing Your Voice<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-123587\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123587\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123587 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/woman-divorce-ring-sad-love-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.shutterstock.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Shutterstock<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stage three is where you abandon your voice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You stop expressing opinions that might create conflict, so you nod along while your real <strong>feelings stay bottled up<\/strong> inside.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This rarely happens for no reason. You might have grown up in a home where disagreement caused tension, or maybe you&rsquo;ve been burned for speaking up before.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Either way, silence might have felt like safety for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The problem is that peace built on your silence isn&rsquo;t real. It&rsquo;s just postponed conflict that weighs on you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Over time, the people around you get used to this smooth version of you, so they never even get to know you for real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c8 un <strong>lonely and frustrating<\/strong> way to live, but that&rsquo;s what self-abandonment does.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Healthy disagreement doesn&rsquo;t destroy good relationships; it only makes them better.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. You Stop Believing Your Own Needs<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-125328\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress.jpg\" alt=\"abbandono\" class=\"wp-image-125328\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"abbandono\" class=\"wp-image-125328 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/self-abandonment-sad-woman-pretty-autumn-nature-dress-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This stage of self-abandonment leads you to believe that your needs aren&rsquo;t important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That&rsquo;s no longer a small habit but an actual thing you believe about yourself.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When you do feel troubled, you think about the people who have it worse or <strong>call yourself dramatic<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You end up ignoring your own needs before anyone else does.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Rest, comfort, support, and affection all start to feel like things you <strong>didn&rsquo;t earn<\/strong>; yet, you never wonder if other people had earned them from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This stage typically comes after years of being overlooked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It takes real inner work to learn that you have the right to need things as much as the next person.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Making Excuses Not to Listen to Your Gut<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-123422\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"801\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123422\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"801\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20801'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='801'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123422 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-960x641.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-1080x721.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-6-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is where self-abandonment starts to affect <strong>your inner world<\/strong> on a new level.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You get a bad feeling about something or someone, and instead of considering it, your first instinct is to doubt yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There&rsquo;s always a reasonable explanation for why you might be wrong. Before long, you start excusing bad behavior as exhaustion or accident.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your intuition is meant to protect you. Every time you silence it, it comes back quieter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Many of us do this because <strong>negazione<\/strong> allows us to stay in our <strong>comfort zones<\/strong>, as unhealthy as they are.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This isn&rsquo;t meant to shame you, but it&rsquo;s important to start looking at the pattern.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It never hurts to ask yourself, &ldquo;What if I&rsquo;m right?&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. Gaslighting Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-123421\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123421\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123421 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is where self-abandonment becomes more obvious. It&rsquo;s when you start telling yourself <strong>you&rsquo;re too sensitive<\/strong> for every negative reaction you have.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, you police your feelings and shrink them until they seem acceptable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And even if you were just that sensitive, would that be so bad? Sensitivity is what makes us care about other people and notice small details.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Now, feelings aren&rsquo;t facts, but they reveal things about your inner world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sei <strong>allowed to feel bad<\/strong> even when you don&rsquo;t have a decent explanation for it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acknowledging your feelings can feel awkward at first, like you&rsquo;re pretending to be someone else. However, it&rsquo;s extremely important for overcoming self-abandonment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. You Can&rsquo;t Protect Your Energy<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-125082\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1.jpg\" alt=\"begging relationship tears\" class=\"wp-image-125082\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"begging relationship tears\" class=\"wp-image-125082 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/sad-couple-relationship-begging-communication-cry-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/\">&copy; Angelynum<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By the time you reach this stage, your self-abandonment had progressed really far.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You struggle to say no and protect your energy, so you end up overwhelmed by other people&rsquo;s <strong>aspettative<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The word <em>no<\/em> feels like something that might get you in trouble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Part of the struggle is that you&rsquo;ve built your <strong>sense of worth<\/strong> around being <strong>agreeable<\/strong>. You&rsquo;re not only afraid of offending someone else; you&rsquo;re afraid of losing your identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When something becomes a part of who you are, it feels impossible to just not do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Strong boundaries protect your relationships because they keep resentment away, and make sure everyone knows exactly where they stand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. You Get Resentful<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-88233\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"577\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg\" alt=\"resentment angry woman\" class=\"wp-image-88233\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"577\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201024%20577'%3E%3Crect%20width='1024'%20height='577'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"resentment angry woman\" class=\"wp-image-88233 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/resentment-feelings-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is the point where your self-abandonment makes you resentful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might not admit to it, but negativity is simmering beneath the surface.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You keep being helpful and doing it with a smile on your face, but you <strong>can&rsquo;t not compare<\/strong> the amount of effort you put in versus the amount other people do for you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Resentment gets a bad rep, but it&rsquo;s a sign that you shouldn&rsquo;t turn away from. It tells you when <strong>something feels wrong<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It shows up when your limits have been crossed, usually by you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might feel like a bad person for being annoyed at people you love, and you&rsquo;re not. You&rsquo;re simply someone who&rsquo;s been giving too much and receiving little.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. Losing Touch with Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-123888\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"896\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123888\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender.jpeg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-300x224.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-1024x765.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-768x573.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-2048x1529.jpeg 2048w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-16x12.jpeg 16w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-960x717.jpeg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-1080x806.jpeg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-170x127.jpeg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"896\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20896'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='896'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123888 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender.jpeg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-9\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender.jpeg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender.jpeg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-300x224.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-1024x765.jpeg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-768x573.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-2048x1529.jpeg 2048w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-16x12.jpeg 16w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-960x717.jpeg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-1080x806.jpeg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/5-woman-mirror-lavender-170x127.jpeg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/\">&copy; Angelynum<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Stage nine of self-abandonment is where you start to lose touch with your feelings.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It&rsquo;s disorienting. You <strong>struggle to decide<\/strong> what you want to do, like having a choice is something foreign to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You&rsquo;ve been ignoring your preferences for so long that you struggle to express them even when someone asks.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might feel numb, like you&rsquo;re watching your life play out without really taking part in it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is a human response, and good news is that it&rsquo;s not the end of the world.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You can start to rebuild the <strong>connection with yourself<\/strong> through intention.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Be patient, though. It can take time, but it&rsquo;s definitely worth it!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. Deep Loneliness<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-78785\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-78785\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20675'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='675'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-78785 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-10\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/07\/featured-lucifer-lonely-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/\">&copy; Angelynum<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Self-abandonment inevitably leads to loneliness. This is when it starts to hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You don&rsquo;t feel understood by others or appreciated, no matter how much you give.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And, what&rsquo;s even worse, you&rsquo;ve been editing yourself so much that the people around you can&rsquo;t possibly understand. They don&rsquo;t have enough information.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is a complicated issue which deserves compassion, not blame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This stage comes with its own challenge: <strong>allow someone in<\/strong>. Choose the person you trust and let them see you for who you really are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Having at least one person you can confide in or be a bit spoiled with can make all the difference.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It opens the door for real healing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11. Not Knowing Where to Turn<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-109657\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-scaled.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-109657\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-scaled.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-109657 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-scaled.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-11\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-scaled.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-scaled.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-2048x1365.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/1-woman-sad-confused-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">At stage eleven of self-abandonment, you start to realize that something needs to change. This can be a relief, but it&rsquo;s also terrifying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You know that you can&rsquo;t go on as you did, but you&rsquo;re not sure what to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Where do you even begin when you&rsquo;ve spent years putting yourself last?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might worry that you&rsquo;ll disappoint your loved ones, or even that you <strong>won&rsquo;t recognize yourself<\/strong> if you break the familiar pattern.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That uncertainty is normal. What matters is that you&rsquo;re aware of the problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Consapevolezza<\/strong> is the hardest part.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your life will not change tomorrow or the day after, but little by little, you&rsquo;ll start to choose yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">12. You&rsquo;re a Stranger to Yourself<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-123417\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123417\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-123417 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-12\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/09\/young-man-sad-upset-gaze-tears-moody-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Self-abandonment ultimately leads you to become estranged from yourself.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">What&rsquo;s the first thing that comes to mind when you have to introduce yourself? When asked about <strong>i tuoi sogni<\/strong>, can you name them easily?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is a heartbreaking thing to face, so it needs to be approached with patience and compassion.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Your life circumstances might have led you away from your passions, from the hobbies that provide nothing but joy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This realization is the <strong>punto di svolta<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You are not too far gone, and it&rsquo;s not too late.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Countless people discover themselves in their late thirties, forties, and even later in life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Become curious about yourself again, and the change will come.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">13. How to Find Your Way Back<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-125322\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-125322\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-125322 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-13\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/10\/pray-bible-holy-spirit-peace-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.freepik.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Freepik<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, how can you stop abandoning yourself? It can never happen all at once, so it&rsquo;s important to manage your expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Other than that, it needs to start with noticing. <strong>Check in with yourself<\/strong> and actually pay attention to your needs throughout the day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Work on <strong>saying no<\/strong> and sticking to it. You might still want to overexplain yourself, and that&rsquo;s okay, as long as you set the boundary and hold it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Make your preferences known to the people around you. 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