{"id":85365,"date":"2025-09-30T18:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-09-30T16:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=85365"},"modified":"2025-09-30T10:20:13","modified_gmt":"2025-09-30T08:20:13","slug":"cushioning-dating-trend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/it\/cushioning-dating-trend\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Cushioning Is the Worst Dating Trend You\u2019ll Love to Hate!"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:56.25%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:58.5%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-10::before{padding-top:56.315789473684%; }img#mv-trellis-img-10{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p>Dating in the 21st century is probably trickier than it&rsquo;s ever been, full of left swipes, ghosting, and endless options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But now there&rsquo;s this sneaky new trend called cushioning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s basically <strong>keeping someone as a backup<\/strong> plan while you&rsquo;re dating someone else &ndash; just in case things go south.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend exposes our deepest fears of being alone and highlights how many of us are uncomfortable with real commitment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Spoiler: it&rsquo;s pretty cruel, and honestly, kind of dehumanizing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. What Is Cushioning Anyway?<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85380\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85380\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"675\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20675'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='675'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85380 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-960x540.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-6-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Cushioning is a trendy way of saying you&rsquo;re keeping someone on the back burner, even if you&rsquo;re already in a relationship or just exploring your options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might flirt, keep in touch, or subtly <strong>send mixed signals<\/strong> &ndash; keep them interested without crossing any clear lines.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s like having a safety net, so if your main thing falls apart, you&rsquo;ve got another option lined up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you ever stop to think how that person feels? Are they genuinely interested in you, and hopefully waiting for you to choose them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Honestly, ghosting them would be kinder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It doesn&rsquo;t necessarily entail malicious intent, but still, it&rsquo;s <strong>pretty shady<\/strong> when you think about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. The Catchy Name<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85378\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85378\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85378 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Cushioning isn&rsquo;t some new invention.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>People have been doing this forever &ndash; dating around, keeping their options open, and <strong>stringing others along<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The only difference is in the name. <strong>Gen Z<\/strong> came up with the new, catchy title, but this behavior has existed long before TikTok and Instagram.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s always been about avoiding loneliness and a fear of commitment.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another thing that&rsquo;s new is how openly we talk about it, and how casual it&rsquo;s become to keep multiple people lined up as though they&rsquo;re just pawns in our game.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. The Root Cause<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85052\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85052\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85052 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/yearning-life-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>It could be said that cushioning is a type of <strong>meccanismo di difesa<\/strong>, rooted in the fear of being alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many people dread the idea of ending a relationship with no backup plan or being single, so they keep their other options lined up just in case.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s keeping your emotions safe on account of others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend makes it easier to avoid difficult conversations that lead to profound commitment, leading to a cycle of superficial connections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We&rsquo;re so <strong>afraid of being lonely<\/strong> that we settle for less, keep options open, and avoid genuine intimacy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&rsquo;s why cushioning feels so common &ndash; it&rsquo;s a symptom of our collective discomfort with solitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Validation Over Commitment<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85381\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85381\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85381 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Another reason cushioning is so popular is out <strong>craving for constant validation<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Keeping multiple options alive feeds our ego and makes us feel desired, even if we&rsquo;re not fully invested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s easier to get a quick hit of attention from several people than to fully commit to one.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This superficial validation keeps us hooked on the thrill of being wanted without the messy work of building something real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a toxic cycle that<strong> feeds insecurity<\/strong> and prevents genuine connection.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend can make us feel validated and in control, but at what cost?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. The Illusion of Choice<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85382\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85382\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85382 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Having too many options is another reason cushioning thrives.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With social media and dating apps, we&rsquo;re constantly presented with potential matches.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This abundance leads to indecisiveness and<strong> restless wandering<\/strong> &ndash; why settle down when there&rsquo;s always someone better just a swipe away?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend lets us keep our options open without ever making a firm choice.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s pretty much wanting to have your cake and eat it, too, but it&rsquo;s a recipe for <strong>emotional burnout<\/strong> and disappointment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. The Cruelty of Leading Someone On<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85384\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85384\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85384 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>In essence, cushioning is a form of emotional cruelty. It&rsquo;s built on <strong>vague promises, mixed signals, <\/strong>e <strong>half-truths<\/strong>, which keep the other person invested.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Imagine putting your heart into someone who&rsquo;s only half-committed, and keeping other people as a backup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s dehumanizing because it reduces individuals to game pieces.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>People deserve honesty<\/strong> and respect, not to be kept around as emotional safety nets.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cushioning exploits vulnerability and preys on insecurities. It&rsquo;s a selfish move that damages trust and makes genuine love feel like a gamble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. The Impact on Trust and Self-Esteem<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-83816\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow.jpg\" alt=\"reason self-sabotage\" class=\"wp-image-83816\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"reason self-sabotage\" class=\"wp-image-83816 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/sabotage-window-shadow-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>When cushioning becomes common, it erodes trust in relationships and your own self-worth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you&rsquo;re the one being kept around just in case, it&rsquo;s natural to <strong>feel like you&rsquo;re not enough<\/strong> or not deserving of real commitment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The people who do the cushioning might be telling themselves they&rsquo;re just keeping their options open, but they&rsquo;re actually hurting someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend creates a toxic environment where nobody really feels secure or valued.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Long-term, it <strong>damages your ability to trust<\/strong> yourself and others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A genuine connection is built on trust and respect, not convenience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. The Justification<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-85383\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85383\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-85383 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/cushioning-dating-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Many people justify cushioning by saying they&rsquo;re just choosing to have fun or are not ready for a relationship, but it&rsquo;s often just avoidance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We want <strong>love without vulnerability<\/strong>, e <strong>validation without commitment<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This paradox makes it hard to settle down or truly move on, because we&rsquo;re always looking for a safety net.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The result? A cycle of superficial encounters, constant wandering, and never really finding that one person we can fully trust.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a sad reflection of our fear of solitude, yet ultimately, it leads us to being all alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. The Myth of Having Options<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-83477\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"702\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-83477\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-300x175.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-1024x599.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-768x449.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-960x562.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-1080x632.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-170x99.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"702\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20702'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='702'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-83477 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-9\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-300x175.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-1024x599.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-768x449.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-960x562.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-1080x632.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/fairytales-lessons-10-170x99.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The idea that having numerous options makes us free is completely false. It actually makes us <strong>restless, impatient<\/strong>, and unable to make a choice.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Cushioning perpetuates this myth by making it so we don&rsquo;t have to face rejection or vulnerability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We act as if having options is empowering, but it&rsquo;s really just avoiding the work it takes to build lasting connections and true love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Choosing someone means giving up all the other possibilities, and that&rsquo;s terrifying to many people.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, they cling to multiple backups, convincing themselves they&rsquo;re just being smart, and <strong>never really feeling fulfilled<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. Let&rsquo;s Call It Out<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-84834\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"950\" height=\"535\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-84834\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6.jpg 950w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-768x433.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"950\" height=\"535\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20950%20535'%3E%3Crect%20width='950'%20height='535'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-84834 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-10\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6.jpg 950w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-768x433.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/ex-shows-up-6-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Cushioning is one of the worst dating trends.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s cruel, dehumanizing, rooted in fear, insecurity, and a<strong> lack of emotional maturity<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It keeps us from experiencing genuine love and teaches us to settle for superficial validation.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We need to recognize that true connection requires honesty, vulnerability, and the courage to commit. No more keeping people as backups or hiding behind our other options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This trend also keeps us from <strong>embracing loneliness<\/strong>, and makes us dependent on others&rsquo; validation, which stunts real growth.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating in the 21st century is probably trickier than it&rsquo;s ever been, full of left swipes, ghosting, and endless options. 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