Things Women Do That Give Men The Instant ‘Ick’

When dating, certain behaviors can cause the other party to react negatively, cause them embarrassment, or give them the ‘ick.’

Being goofy, feeling down, or reacting in a certain manner is totally fine if it happens from time to time, but if these behaviors persist, your partner may not find them fun or endearing.

Let us explore behaviors that mostly give men the ‘ick.’

Trying Too Hard To Impress

Many men experience an instant “ick” feeling toward a woman who goes out of her way to impress him with an overly rehearsed story, too much exaggerated confidence, or pretending to really like something that she doesn’t like at all.

These ways of impressing men make the encounter feel artificial and like a façade, unlike what it would look like if they showed what they naturally feel. The best way for a woman to attract a man is for her to be authentic and sincere.

When they see who she really is, an emotional bond will form between them. When a woman hides behind a façade (false personality), it creates a void between them.

In addition, women who behave naturally and honestly will attract more men than a woman who creates a false image of what they would like her to look like. Fakeness is always revealed, sooner or later.

Acting in a way that somebody thinks will attract a partner sends a signal of insecurity rather than confidence. Ultimately, authenticity will always be the most attractive characteristic a woman has.

Loud Public Drama

Another major “ick” for men is when a woman creates a lot of noise or drama in a public setting. This can involve screaming at her partner, complaining loudly in public, or making a dramatic physical gesture such as throwing things around.

These situations are highly uncomfortable for men because instead of communicating about an issue, the scene becomes a spectacle. Most men prefer calm and private conversations, especially when discussing sensitive issues.

When women create public drama, men see this as a sign of immaturity or a pattern of emotional behavior that is unresolved; they might wonder if future arguments will always result in a “show.”

Being respectful and composed does not mean that you are hiding your feelings; it means that you are expressing them in a mature manner. Being strong and quietly confident gives men a sense of security and trust, while the chaos of public displays of emotion sends the opposite message.

Being Rude To Staff Or Strangers

A great way to turn a guy off is to be rude to the people who serve you; such behavior shows a person’s true character.

If a guy sees you being rude to someone who can’t fight back, it will make him wonder how you would treat him if he were vulnerable.

The way you treat other people reflects your maturity and helps men appreciate women who are consistently kind rather than inconsistent in their acts of kindness.

Treating others fairly implies you have a stable, compassionate, and humble personality. If you are rude or dismissive, you will not preserve his interest.

Constant Negativity Or Complaining

It’s hard to imagine any man being attracted to a woman who only complains or sees everything wrong with life. A woman who is negative drains everyone around her emotionally and also puts so much emotional weight onto men that men feel like every event in life has to turn into a challenge.

That doesn’t mean that women must be positive all the time, as we all have our bad days, but being consistently negative is an exhausting experience for both men and women.

Men prefer having an overall emotional balance when dealing with a woman, and by this, I mean a woman can express her concerns without becoming bitter. Hope, curiosity, and gratitude build connections between men and women.

A little bit of positivity (or lightness) can go a long way toward developing that emotional connection. Lastly, negativity repeated on a daily basis can ultimately develop a negative energy and create distance between men and women as opposed to creating closeness.

Playing Hard To Get To An Extreme

While a certain amount of mystery can be alluring, when a woman has to play “hard to get” too many times, it causes men to feel the opposite of what she hoped for.

For example, purposely not responding to a message or acting aloof (not showing interest constantly) are some common signs that cause many men to lose interest very quickly.

Men want to feel like their partner is actually interested, and they like to have healthy communication and everything else that goes along with a successful relationship.

Although men want a woman who has confidence, they do not want to deal with emotional manipulation in any way. Just as the ultimate goal will be accomplished through mutual interest and effort from both parties involved, the connection will happen naturally and without stressed effort from either side.

Therefore, if a woman’s interest appears to be too strong or too weak for her partner and both partners seem to be constantly changing their minds on a whim, it leaves a lot of room for doubts and unfulfilled desires.

Acting Overly Jealous Or Possessive

Many men withdraw from women who display excessive jealousy, including when the woman frequently checks on his whereabouts, questions all the women in his life, or becomes possessive too early on in the relationship.

Men prefer partners who trust them, especially emotionally mature ones. Jealousy is a reflection of deep-seated feelings of insecurity that have not been dealt with properly in that person’s life.

In a healthy relationship, there is both independence and confidence from both parties. When one party reacts with suspicion toward the other, this causes tension and doubt.

Trust is a far more attractive trait than the need for control. A woman who feels secure in herself allows the relationship to breathe and therefore creates a feeling of closeness with the man, rather than driving him away.