{"id":79206,"date":"2025-08-04T18:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-08-04T16:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=79206"},"modified":"2025-08-04T13:07:40","modified_gmt":"2025-08-04T11:07:40","slug":"10-phrases-narcissists-use-to-trick-people-into-thinking-theyre-nice","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/ja\/10-phrases-narcissists-use-to-trick-people-into-thinking-theyre-nice\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Phrases Narcissists Use to Trick People Into Thinking They&#8217;re Nice"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-10::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-10{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p>Ever been charmed by someone who later revealed a much darker side? Narcissists are masters at appearing kind and caring while actually manipulating those around them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They use specific phrases that sound supportive but actually serve their need for control and admiration. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Learning to recognize these verbal tricks can help you protect yourself from their emotional games.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. &ldquo;I did all of this for you&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/10-Phrases-Narcissists-Use-to-Trick-People-Into-Thinking-Theyre-Nice-1.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/10-Phrases-Narcissists-Use-to-Trick-People-Into-Thinking-Theyre-Nice-1.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-embracing-crying-elderly-woman-while-sitting-on-couch-6003788\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; RDNE Stock project<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>When a narcissist says they&rsquo;ve done everything for you, they&rsquo;re setting a trap of obligation. They transform normal actions into extraordinary sacrifices that demand your eternal gratitude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This phrase creates an emotional debt you can never repay. They&rsquo;ll remind you of their generosity whenever you express needs or set boundaries, making you feel selfish for having basic expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The manipulation works because most kind people naturally feel bad about disappointing someone who&rsquo;s supposedly been so generous. Remember: true giving comes without strings attached.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. &ldquo;I just want peace&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-4.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-4.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/angry-couple-standing-back-to-back-8560709\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Timur Weber<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Sounds reasonable, right? Who doesn&rsquo;t want peace? But narcissists deploy this phrase strategically when you&rsquo;re addressing their hurtful behavior or standing up for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They position themselves as the reasonable peacemaker while painting you as the troublemaker. The hidden message is clear: stop bringing up problems or having needs that inconvenience them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A genuine desire for peace involves mutual understanding and compromise. The narcissist&rsquo;s version simply means they want you to stop challenging them so they can continue their behavior without consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. &ldquo;You&rsquo;re so sensitive, I was just joking&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-5.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-5.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/healthy-couple-love-coffee-6972771\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Mikhail Nilov<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The classic move after saying something deliberately hurtful. First comes the insult, then when you react, they flip the script completely. Suddenly you&rsquo;re the problem for having feelings about their &ldquo;harmless joke.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This double-punch technique is called gaslighting &ndash; making you question your own reality and emotional responses. Over time, you might start second-guessing your reactions to everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Healthy people can acknowledge when their jokes miss the mark. They apologize instead of attacking your character for having a normal emotional response to their hurtful words.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m just being honest&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-6.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-6.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-comforting-the-sad-person-7395309\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; cottonbro studio<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Honesty becomes a weapon in a narcissist&rsquo;s hands. They deliver cruel observations or harsh criticisms, then shield themselves with the virtue of truthfulness. The underlying message: you should thank them for their brutal candor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Genuine honesty comes with compassion and considers whether the information is helpful or necessary. A narcissist&rsquo;s &ldquo;honesty&rdquo; typically targets your insecurities or appears when you&rsquo;re already vulnerable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Notice how their &ldquo;honesty&rdquo; rarely includes positive observations or admitting their own flaws. True honesty works both ways &ndash; it&rsquo;s not just a license to be mean without consequences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. &ldquo;Nobody else would put up with you like I do&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-7.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-7.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/moody-black-and-white-forest-scene-with-man-33290520\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Andreas Schnabl<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>This devastating phrase isolates you by suggesting you&rsquo;re fundamentally flawed and lucky to have found someone willing to tolerate you. It creates a frightening thought: if you leave, you&rsquo;ll be alone forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Narcissists plant seeds of doubt about your worth to ensure your continued dependence on them. They may even actively sabotage your other relationships to prove their point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The reality? Healthy people don&rsquo;t &ldquo;put up with&rdquo; their partners &ndash; they appreciate them, flaws and all. If someone implies you&rsquo;re a burden they&rsquo;re heroically tolerating, that&rsquo;s not love &ndash; it&rsquo;s control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. &ldquo;Everyone says how lucky you are to have me&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-8.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-8.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/cheerful-multiethnic-spouses-laughing-while-sharing-tablet-at-table-at-home-6248560\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Gary  Barnes<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Who exactly is &ldquo;everyone&rdquo;? This vague claim weaponizes imaginary public opinion against you. The narcissist creates an illusion that the world sees them as your superior &ndash; a prize you should be grateful to possess.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>By invoking nameless others, they make their opinion seem like objective truth rather than self-serving propaganda. This technique is particularly effective because it&rsquo;s nearly impossible to disprove.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pay attention to how often they reference what &ldquo;everyone&rdquo; thinks without specific examples. Real confidence doesn&rsquo;t require constant reminders from &ldquo;everyone&rdquo; about how wonderful they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. &ldquo;Wow, you actually look good today!&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-9.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-9.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/a-woman-holding-a-drink-beside-a-sitting-man-10597003\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Anna Shvets<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>That tiny word &ldquo;actually&rdquo; transforms what sounds like a compliment into something much darker. The narcissist implies your normal appearance is substandard, making their approval feel like a rare achievement worth celebrating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>These backhanded compliments keep you off-balance and hungry for their validation. You might even feel grateful for comments that subtly undermine your self-image.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>True compliments build others up without hidden barbs. If their &ldquo;nice&rdquo; comments consistently leave you feeling worse about yourself, pay attention &ndash; that&rsquo;s not accidental, it&rsquo;s strategic emotional manipulation designed to maintain their upper hand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. &ldquo;I&rsquo;m the only one who truly understands you&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-10.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-10.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/portrait-of-a-woman-on-a-white-background-7272936\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Photo By: Kaboompics.com<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>This seemingly romantic declaration actually serves a sinister purpose. The narcissist positions themselves as your unique interpreter in a world that misunderstands you. How convenient for them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This false intimacy creates dangerous isolation. Friends and family who raise concerns about the relationship are dismissed as people who &ldquo;just don&rsquo;t understand you like I do.&rdquo; Your support network gradually shrinks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Real understanding involves respecting your autonomy and encouraging other healthy relationships. Someone who claims exclusive rights to understanding you is actually building walls around you, not bridges of connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. &ldquo;I forgive you&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-11.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-9\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-11.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/happy-women-hugging-4584462\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Ketut Subiyanto<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The ultimate power move: forgiving you for something you never did wrong. This creates instant confusion &ndash; did you actually hurt them without realizing it? Should you be grateful for their magnanimous forgiveness?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This technique flips the script completely. Suddenly you&rsquo;re mentally reviewing your actions, feeling vaguely guilty without knowing why. Meanwhile, the narcissist appears generous and kind for overlooking your supposed transgression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Watch for this phrase appearing after you&rsquo;ve expressed legitimate concerns about their behavior. It&rsquo;s a classic distraction tactic designed to make you forget they were the one who needed to apologize in the first place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. &ldquo;I hate drama&rdquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-12.jpg\" alt=\"\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-10\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/unnamed-file-12.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/man-and-woman-arguing-6147245\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Keira Burton<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The greatest irony: those who constantly declare their hatred of drama are often its primary creators. Narcissists use this phrase as both shield and sword &ndash; defending themselves while attacking your legitimate concerns.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Labeling normal emotional reactions or relationship discussions as &ldquo;drama&rdquo; trivializes your feelings. It frames you as irrational and attention-seeking for having normal human needs and boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Someone genuinely drama-averse resolves conflicts calmly and directly. They don&rsquo;t announce their drama-free status while simultaneously stirring up chaos, then blaming others for the very turbulence they created.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ever been charmed by someone who later revealed a much darker side? 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