Men and women are often confronted with misunderstandings and unspoken desires in their relationships. Sometimes men keep their true desires and needs to themselves for fear of misunderstanding or conflict.
Even though women may think that their partners are open and honest about all aspects of the relationship, there are certain things that men prefer to keep to themselves. These unspoken desires may seem insignificant at first glance, but they can have a profound impact on the quality and duration of the relationship.
Let’s see together what secret desires are floating around in a man’s head.
1. he wants you to give him your attention
You’ll rarely hear a man say that he likes compliments, as they make him feel uncomfortable and less masculine.
But just because he doesn’t bring it up doesn’t mean he doesn’t appreciate it.
Men also have insecurities about their appearance and don’t actually receive as many compliments as women. When he shares a picture on social media or goes out with friends, there isn’t a group of friends telling him how good he looks.
It’s different for women, isn’t it? But men need that kind of support too, and in terms of his appearance, you’re often the only person who can give him that kind of recognition. For this reason, you should do it regularly.
For example, tell him that you think his shirt looks good on him, that he’s making great progress at the gym, that he has beautiful eyes or that his hair looks particularly good. I think you understand what I’m getting at.
2. he expects you to ask for his opinion or advice
You surely know the wonderful feeling when your boyfriend appreciates you, your performance and your actions? When he loves you and shows you his affection? He feels the same way when you ask him for advice.
Men have a strong need to feel useful and to feel that they are making a valuable contribution.
And not just when it comes to cars and technology! He wants to be part of all areas of your life. For example, if someone asks you something, whether it’s about your work or a movie recommendation, ask them the question and get their opinion before you answer them.
Men are generally very solution-oriented and love it when they can be useful. That’s why he often tries to solve your problems when you tell him about something that’s bothering you.
Many women find this annoying because in such moments they are looking for emotional support rather than a concrete solution.
If your boyfriend reacts like this, try not to get angry. Instead, explain to him that you appreciate his advice, but just need his emotional support.
3. he wants to see that you’re into him
It shouldn’t always just be the man’s job to show physical affection. Men enjoy it when their partner makes the first move. That’s why it’s important that you never stop flirting with him.
A man is excited when he realizes how attracted he is to you and how much you want him. This boosts his self-confidence and shows him that he is desired. If you show him that you desire him, he will not only feel attractive, but also establish a deeper emotional connection with you.
A spontaneous kiss, a tender touch or a flirtatious look can do much more than you think. These small gestures give him the feeling that he is something special to you. And that’s true!
In a relationship, it’s important that both partners show their affection. If you make an effort, he will realize that your passion for him is strong and that you see him not only as a partner, but also as a desirable man.
In this way, you will create a balanced and fulfilling partnership in which both partners see their needs and desires fulfilled.
4. he wants to make you happy so that he can feel good about himself
You should be honest and open about what you want. Your partner really wants to make you happy and do everything for you. However, sometimes he can’t read your mind and all he wants is for you to tell him what to do.
A man really appreciates being told, provided it is communicated in the right way. The right approach is to communicate lovingly and respectfully, without reproaching, lecturing or scolding.
It’s important to show him what you like and what you want so that he feels good about it. For example, it’s better to say: “I love it when you…” instead of “Why don’t you ever…”.
When a man is lectured or criticized for something he did wrong, he often feels like a loser. He can get the feeling of being treated like a small child being reprimanded by his mother for bad behavior.
That’s why it’s important to communicate his wishes and needs in a way that makes him feel good. If he knows that he can do something to make you happy, he will be happy himself and feel fulfilled.
5. he needs (your) help too
One of the most important feelings for a man in a relationship is the perception that he finds real support in his partner. He wants a woman who firmly believes in him, regardless of the circumstances.
It gives him security to know that you are by his side, even if he makes mistakes or fails, as failures are particularly hard for men to bear.
It’s a well-known fact that men don’t like to talk about their emotions. It is therefore even more important that he knows that you are always there for him, even if he doesn’t say it or talk about it.
If you sincerely support him and show confidence in his abilities, he will feel strong and inspired, he will simply want to live life and take on new challenges with you. Many women don’t realize what a huge impact their support has on men.
Your pride in him is his greatest motivation. It makes him feel valuable and capable.
Sempre senti uma forte ligação com o Divino desde o meu nascimento. Como autora e mentora, a minha missão é ajudar os outros a encontrar o amor, a felicidade e a força interior nos momentos mais sombrios.