Have you ever noticed how some mothers make motherhood look easy, fun, and so enjoyable? Children adore them, confide in them, and find them so fun.
Even as grown-ups, they wholeheartedly remember their childhood moments with them and talk fondly of them.
There are certain características that mothers who all children love possess, and some of them can easily be learned when you embody love in everyday, small things.
She Listens With Her Whole Heart
An example of an excellent mother would be one who listens to her children without passing judgment, but rather one who tries to understand them.
When she listens, she focuses on her child and does not have anything distracting her, enabling her child to express their feelings freely without worrying about anything else.
She listens patiently and calmly and does not interrupt her child, even when the child is having difficulty expressing themself verbally. By this type of listening, the child feels secure emotionally.
A mother who listens in this way conveys to her children that their feelings are significant. She is also providing her children with the opportunity to develop confidence in themselves and the ability to freely communicate in future relationships; having this kind of support continues into adulthood.
She Creates a Safe Emotional Space
Believe it or not, the best kind of mother is the one who helps her children feel safe in every way. Emotionally, she wants them to be able to express themselves freely whenever they want without punishment, shame, or fear of being shamed.
Because of this, the child knows that the “mother” will be there for him/her and guide him/her through this process. In the end, through the mother’s stability and emotional support, children are taught how to control their emotions and feelings.
Also, when the mother provides reassurance rather than criticism, children become adults who believe they are worthy of being treated with kindness. Consequently, being a loving mom has a lasting impact on the child throughout his/her life.
She Shows Love Through Small Daily Actions
An excellent mom demonstrates her love to her child in daily, small acts of tenderness, rather than big gestures alone. For example, an excellent mom could tuck her child into bed at night, remember a child’s favorite snack, and/or ask her child how their day went.
All of these small acts become a child’s anchor and are a constant reminder that they are loved by their mom. As a child experiences these moments, it conveys to them, “I love you. You matter.”
Ultimately, over time, a child will associate their mother with comfort and reliability due to the impact of these small daily acts. Because of this, children trust their moms and, ultimately, develop a lifelong love for them.
Children do not remember specific experiences, but they do remember emotionally how much their mother cared for them.
She Balances Guidance With Freedom
The greatest moms provide their children with reference points for exploring independently while also being close enough to assist them if they make an error along the way.
By providing a balance between exploration and safety, a great mom enables her children to build self-esteem through independence. Through the teaching of independence in a spiritual and emotional way, they learn that they are safe within themselves.
They are provided with opportunities to learn from their mistakes and build resilience. Therefore, a balanced approach to parenting results in strong love, as children experience the respect of their mothers as they grow up, resulting in their confidence to navigate their own futures.
She Apologizes and Admits Mistakes
When mothers apologize for losing their patience, this teaches their children that love for one another does not mean constant perfection.
Having a mother who is able to model that to their children helps children understand there will always be moments of making a wrong decision or losing patience, but that doesn’t mean they have to be afraid to admit those mistakes.
This also helps children to learn about forgiveness and compassion because they feel safe admitting when they are wrong, knowing their mother made a mistake too. Having a mother own up to her mistakes and imperfections teaches children how to resolve conflict in compassionate ways.
Children admire their mothers for being vulnerable and for their ability to support their personal growth as well as their growth as a family, rather than trying to always act perfectly and better than their children.
She Encourages Their Dreams Without Judgment
A great mother encourages her children in all their interests, even if they are different from her own. She listens to them when they talk about their hopes and dreams and doesn’t make fun of or invalidate them.
She also supports exploring creativity and curiosity as a way to help build self-confidence and create a sense of individual identity. Her children feel loved for who they really are, not just who their parent wants them to be.
Thus, they have an environment in which they are emotionally safe to take risks and do what interests them. This unconditional encouragement is something that will be remembered by the child and will help shape who he or she is as an adult and how much he or she will value his or her dreams.
She Loves Without Conditions
Every cherished mother is filled with unconditional love: a love that doesn’t depend on performance (e.g., grades, behavior, and accomplishments).
Children experience this profound unconditional love throughout their lives. Children always feel that even though they have made mistakes, their mothers will keep their hearts open to them.
This unconditional love helps a child develop lifelong resiliency. Children develop an understanding of themselves, their relationships, and their own feelings of safety through the unconditional love they receive from their mothers.
A mother who loves unconditionally becomes the emotional home for the child to return to throughout his/her life and provides him/her comfort in the knowledge that true love is unconditional, forgiving, and eternal.
Born and raised in Bosnia and Herzegovina. Ever since I was a little girl, my imagination knew no bounds. I remember vividly how I’d scribble down short stories, each page bursting with adventures and characters conjured up from the whimsy of my mind. These stories weren’t just for me; they were my way of connecting with my friends, offering them a slice of my fantasy world during our playtimes. The joy and excitement on their faces as we dived into my fictional realms motivated me to keep writing. This early passion for storytelling naturally evolved into my pursuit of writing, turning a childhood hobby into a fulfilling career.