Friendship is supposed to feel like a safe place — somewhere you can celebrate wins, cry over losses, and be fully yourself.
But what happens when someone you care about seems… off? Maybe they don’t clap when you succeed or give weird backhanded compliments.
That might not be your imagination. Some friendships are laced with envy, and it shows in subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways.
Jealousy can quietly rot even the closest connection if it’s left unchecked. Below are seven clear signs your friend might not be rooting for you the way a true friend should.
Recognizing the signs doesn’t mean you need to start drama. It just means you can protect your peace — and your energy — a little better.
1. They Downplay Your Success

Every time something good happens to you, they act like it’s not a big deal. You get a promotion, and they say, “Must be nice to have connections.”
You buy a car, and they shrug and say, “I mean, anyone can finance these days.” Instead of cheering you on, they quietly chip away at your excitement.
It’s subtle, but it stings. Real friends don’t compete with your joy, they add to it. When someone constantly minimizes your wins, it’s often because they feel threatened by them.
Their ego can’t handle your growth. So rather than celebrate you, they try to shrink the moment down to something less shiny.
If your victories make someone uncomfortable, that’s not a reflection of your success. It’s a mirror of their insecurity.
2. They Imitate You, Then Compete

You notice they start dressing like you, copying your hobbies, or using your phrases, and at first, it might seem flattering.
But then, it takes a turn. Suddenly, they’re trying to do everything you do, only louder, faster, or better. They get weirdly competitive over stuff you didn’t even think was a competition.
It’s one thing to share inspiration. It’s another to feel like your friend is trying to be you — and outdo you while doing it.
That mix of admiration and envy can create a weird, unspoken rivalry. You end up feeling like you’re in a constant performance instead of a friendship.
True friends are inspired by you but stay in their own lane. When someone starts mirroring you and then racing you, something deeper is off.
3. They Get Distant When You’re Thriving

Ever notice how they go quiet when things are going really well for you? You post exciting news, and they don’t comment. You share a win in person, and they change the subject.
They might even vanish altogether when life is good for you. That’s not a coincidence — that’s discomfort.
Jealous friends often can’t handle your light because it highlights what they think they lack. So instead of being present and proud, they pull away.
Their silence speaks volumes. It says, “I don’t know how to be happy for you because I’m too busy comparing.”
Real friends don’t ghost you when you’re glowing. They show up, even if they’re going through their own stuff. Distance during your high moments is a major red flag.
4. They Make Backhanded Compliments a Habit

“You look great for once.” “Wow, I didn’t think you could pull that off.” “You’re smarter than you seem.”
These aren’t compliments. They’re tiny knives wrapped in sugar. A jealous friend will often disguise their envy as humor or teasing, but their words leave you second-guessing yourself.
It’s intentional. They want to throw shade without sounding obvious. But you feel the sting.
You leave the conversation wondering: “Was that supposed to make me feel good?” Spoiler: It wasn’t.
Backhanded compliments are often a way for insecure people to cut you down while keeping their hands clean. Don’t brush them off. Pay attention. Healthy friendships uplift, not undermine.
5. They Turn Everything Into a Competition

You mention your new job, and suddenly they’re listing all the awards they’ve ever won. You talk about your vacation and they’re already planning one that’s “even better.”
Every story you tell becomes a challenge for them to one-up. It’s exhausting. It’s like your life is a scoreboard and they’re keeping track.
Jealousy thrives in comparison, and competitive friends often measure their worth by how they stack up next to you.
But real friendship isn’t a race. There’s no prize for who’s happier, more successful, or more admired. True friends want both of you to win.
If every conversation feels like a contest, it might be time to question whether this friendship is about connection — or competition.
6. They Enjoy Your Lows a Little Too Much

A jealous friend might not cheer when you rise, but they definitely perk up when you fall. You notice they seem unusually interested in your bad news.
Maybe they ask too many questions about your breakup or look a little too satisfied when things aren’t going your way.
It’s subtle, but the vibe is off. You feel more observed than supported. That’s because your struggles make them feel better about themselves.
It levels the playing field in their mind. If someone seems more present during your pain than your joy, that’s not empathy, that’s envy.
Real friends don’t root for your downfall. They hold your hand through the lows and pop the champagne during your highs. Anything less is not friendship.
7. You Constantly Feel Drained or On Guard Around Them

Sometimes, the biggest sign is how you feel. You leave their presence feeling smaller, second-guessing yourself, or emotionally wrung out.
You’re careful about what you share, not because you’re private, but because you don’t trust their reaction. That’s your intuition nudging you.
Friendships should leave you feeling lighter, not heavier. If being around someone consistently makes you feel like you have to shrink, filter, or hide your joy, it’s time to ask why.
Jealous energy is sneaky, but your body and emotions often catch it before your mind does. Listen to that feeling.
It’s not drama. It’s wisdom. And it’s trying to tell you that this friendship might not be safe for your spirit anymore.

Sempre senti uma forte ligação com o Divino desde o meu nascimento. Como autora e mentora, a minha missão é ajudar os outros a encontrar o amor, a felicidade e a força interior nos momentos mais sombrios.