爱自己：更加关注自己的 9 种方法

Self-love is not easy. As they say, you are your own biggest critic. We are programmed to have attacks of self-loathing, and for many of us, this stage of hatred can turn into our whole lives.

When we spend more time hating ourselves than loving ourselves, we adopt a more negative attitude toward the world. Start loving yourself first.

Learn how to believe in yourself, even when you feel that the world is telling you differently.

It may not be the easiest thing in the world, but it is certainly the most important thing. 

What You Need to Know First

If there is only one lesson you need to learn, it is that you are absolutely the most important person in your entire life.

Your whole life has been lived through your eyes – your interactions with the world and those around you, your thoughts, and the way you interpret events, relationships, actions, words…

That is why your reality depends on how much you love yourself and how much care about yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the most important factor in shaping the life you live in.

The less you love yourself, listen to yourself, and understand yourself, the more confused, angry, and unhappy you will be. 

But, when you start and continue to love yourself more, everything you do and everyone you interact with becomes better in every way possible.

Here are some of the steps for you, and this could help you to appreciate yourself more

1. Find the Time for Yourself Every Day

Think of people in your life you love and respect. How are you treating them? You are kind to them, you have patience for them, you give them enough space, believe in them and their growth.

Now, think about yourself. How do you treat yourself? Do you take care of your body, mind, and needs? Do you give yourself love and respect that you can give your family, partner, or friends?

Of course, I thought so. You always put yourself in the other plan and take care of others.

Loving yourself is more than a state of mind. It is a series of actions and habits that you have in your daily life. You have to show yourself to love yourself, from the beginning of your day to the end.

So, find the time for yourself and show the respect to your body and mind. Start to sleep enough, eat healthy food, exercise, show gratitude to yourself and others around you, do your hobbies…

2. Accept Yourself as You Are

Nobody is perfect. Some of us mix self-love with endless positivity and optimism. And we think it is just the right thing, after all. 

But the truth is that your infinite optimism is a huge lie. First of all, you lie about part of yourself, ignoring the needs of the other half, which you are. Because we all have a dark side, we all have pain and hatred.

So, ignoring these realities eats us inside and forces us to drop spiritually and mentally. Just allow yourself to be an honest person, therefore who you are actually.

Forgive yourself for your mistakes, those things that make you ashamed. Accept that you are sometimes the center of negative emotions, such as anger, disgust, jealousy, rage…

Also, you need to embrace the silence when you need it.

3. Open Your Heart

Realize yourself in the most intimate possible way and find a reason for every negative emotion, every embarrassment, every word and deed, which is why you regret it.

Perhaps the most important thing you will discover is that most parts of our personality have their own goal. Maybe you have false realities of reality, trauma, or a sacrifice.

Maybe you see the world differently than it is, and because of that, you did the things, for which you now know they are wrong. So, find the causes and follow your past. 

In addition, learn to love yourself in a way that you can just do. Stop being ashamed of your past and start understanding that.

4. Share Yourself

On this journey of discovering yourself, you will discover truths about yourself, which will shock and terrify you. But the goal is to go through them and start loving yourself more through understanding and acceptance.

And only when you work out your personal punches can you begin to see the rough diamonds: your gifts. These are traits that survive the journey.

Give yourself truly to the world and those around you. Now when you love yourself, it is time to start helping others find the highest form of self-love.

5. Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Your thoughts are just thoughts and nothing more. You need to realize that most of us are inherently negative. Because of fears and worries, we need to protect ourselves.

But this survival mechanism can work against us. Well, what you need to realize is that while your thoughts don’t necessarily change, but you can stop trusting them.

6. What You Want to Do with Your Life

Understanding what you want is a key to happiness and finding meaning in life. However, you probably already know that. So, if you don’t know what to do with your life, how can you understand it?

But remember, if you want to learn how to love yourself, then you must have a purpose that unlocks that love.

7. Be Grateful

Being grateful is a strong attitude, which can shape your thinking for the better. Mentally strong people choose to change self-pity for gratitude.

所以、 be grateful for what you already have while you are achieving your goals. If you are not grateful for what you have, why do you think you will be happier with more?

8. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Progress can’t be made in your comfort zone. And as embarrassing as it is, it is true. 

You don’t have to do anything great to get out of your comfort zone, but you can take small steps to expand your zone and make progress.

9. Don’t Give Up

If you take all the previous steps, you will start to see the changes in yourself. So, when you start believing you are improving, just keep going.

If you become a more confident and happier person, then that is all that matters to you.

In the end, just love yourself, believe in yourself, and respect yourself, you are the Universe to yourself.