Girl Code: 9 Rules That Keep Friendships Strong

Girl friendships can be one of the most rewarding parts of life, and like any friendship, they require respect and loyalty to stay solid.

Think of it like a code – a set of unspoken rules that keep your bond unbreakable. 

When you respect each other’s boundaries and keep the trust intact, your friendship becomes a safe space 为你们两个人。

1. Never Compete with Each Other

Friendship and competition just don’t mix. Comparing yourself to your girlfriend or trying to outdo her points to hidden jealousy and resentment.

If you’re feeling threatened by her, then you can celebrate her success and be genuinely happy when she thrives.

If she gets a new job, don’t get bitter and make it all about you – cheer her on! Your friendship grows stronger when you’re both focused on lifting each other up.

Competing creates distance and keeps you from being able to trust one another.

It’s important to remember that your friend’s success doesn’t take away from your own. You can both be happy for her and work on your own passions.

2. Keep Each Other’s Secrets Safe

Trust is the foundation of any solid friendship. If your girl trusts you enough to confide in you, treat her secrets like gold. 

And even if you end up drifting apart and not talking as much, that trust shouldn’t be broken.

True loyalty doesn’t end just because you no longer spend much time with someone. Secrets shared in confidence are for life.

By breaking that trust, you’re tearing the friendship apart, so always respect your girlfriend’s privacy. 

The things she told you in confidence aren’t hot tea that you get to share with your new friends. Your integrity and respect should stand, even when it’s not convenient.

3. Always Tell the Truth Kindly

Honesty is crucial, of course, but your delivery is just as important. 

Never lie to your girl or hide things from her; that’s how mistrust comes to be. However, you also want to look out for her feelings and well-being.

Telling the truth doesn’t have to be harsh. If she’s messed up or needs a reality check, be clear but gentle.

Tell her the truth from a place of understanding, not judgment. The point of your honesty shouldn’t be to tear her down.

You’re girlfriends – you’d want her to approach you in the same manner.

When you tell the truth with love, it helps her grow, and it keeps your friendship strong. 

4. Never Steal Each Other’s Crushes or Boyfriends

This one’s basic, but people still manage to get it wrong. Respect your friends’ crushes and relationships.

If she’s into someone, you shouldn’t even think about making a move on him. As a matter of fact, we’re supposed to view our girlfriends’ partners more as their accessories than actual men.

Just remember one thing: if she ever liked him, likes him now, or dates him – he’s off-limits.

Don’t even entertain the idea of messing with that! Just think about how it would feel if the roles were reversed.

Respect her feelings and her choices; that’s what real loyalty looks like.

If you truly care about your girl, you’ll avoid any situation that could cause drama or hurt her.

5. Never Date Your Girlfriend’s Ex

This is a big one. If your girlfriend has dated someone, he should be as good as invisible to you. Even if she’s over him and they dated years ago, it still feels like a 出卖.

How would you feel if someone broke your heart, and it took you months to move on, only for your friend to bring him back into your life?

这就是 basic loyalty. Once she’s been with someone, you shouldn’t even consider him.

Dating her ex would most likely cause drama and hurt feelings, and that’s the last thing you’d want if you care about the friendship.

If you find yourself interested in someone she used to date and can’t get over it, I guess you could try to talk to her and make a decision together.

At the very least, you should make sure to put her feelings first.

6. Respect Her Boundaries

Everyone has their limits and comfort zones, so never push your girl to do something she’s not okay with. 

Whether it’s about sharing personal secrets or spending time together, always respect her boundaries. 

If she says she’s not comfortable talking about certain topics or hanging out at certain places, listen and respect that.

Pushing her beyond her limits shows a lack of care and respect, and it can damage trust.

Good friends understand that boundaries exist for a reason and that respecting them keeps the friendship healthy. 

You can best maintain your friendship by respecting her space and choices. Remember, you’re the one she can be herself with; don’t take that away by trying to control her.

7. If She’s Beefing with Someone, So Are You

When your girl is upset with someone, it’s a given that you’ll stand by her side. If she’s having issues with someone, you shouldn’t take that person’s side.

You can try to reason with your friend if she goes too far, but she’s going to feel betrayed if you’re not standing by her. Your loyalty should be to her first.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you have to hate anyone she doesn’t like, but it does mean that you shouldn’t minimize her feelings and turn against her.

Support her, listen to her, and don’t encourage drama. 

Stick with her through thick and thin, even if you disagree with some of her opinions. 

8. Always Look Out for Each Other (In Clubs, at Work, at School, etc.)

Whether we like it or not, girls are vulnerable, and that’s why it’s important to have each other’s backs wherever we are.

Stay alert for each other, whether you’re dancing at the club or stuck at work.

If she’s feeling uncomfortable or something seems off, speak up and help her. Protect her reputation and keep her safe.

When you’re out dancing, and it seems like she’s had a lot to drink, it’s up to you to stop drinking and make sure she doesn’t get in any trouble – and she should do the same for you.

Likewise, if she’s making some mistakes at work, you should be the first one to privately call her out and offer help.

Being attentive like this shows that your friendship goes beyond just texting and gossiping. 

9. Always Show Up When She Needs You

Friends are a found family, and it’s given that we should be there for each other, whether we’re upset or happy.

Show up for your girl, both physically and emotionally. Being there during her lows and highs proves you’re a true friend.

And it’s not always about the big gestures. Sometimes a quick text or call makes all the difference; it shows that you think of her and that she doesn’t have to ask for your support.

When push comes to shove, and she really needs you there, don’t make excuses. Show up, even if you don’t feel like it.

These are the times when your friendship is tested.