{"id":71430,"date":"2025-07-06T20:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-07-06T18:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=71430"},"modified":"2025-07-06T13:44:11","modified_gmt":"2025-07-06T11:44:11","slug":"things-divorcees-wish-they-had-done-differently","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/things-divorcees-wish-they-had-done-differently\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Things Divorcees Wish They Had Done Differently"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-10::before{padding-top:100%; }img#mv-trellis-img-10{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p>Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you&rsquo;ve said &ldquo;I do.&rdquo; According to recent surveys, nearly 50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce, leaving many people wondering what went wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p> We asked real divorcees to share their biggest regrets and what they would change if they could turn back time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Their honest answers might surprise you&mdash;and maybe save your relationship!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Spoke Up Instead of Shutting Down<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/10-Things-Divorcees-Wish-They-Had-Done-Differently.jpg\" alt=\"Spoke Up Instead of Shutting Down\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Spoke Up Instead of Shutting Down\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/10-Things-Divorcees-Wish-They-Had-Done-Differently.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/a-couple-arguing-8560842\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Pexels<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Silence isn&rsquo;t golden in marriage&mdash;it&rsquo;s relationship rust. A staggering 67% of divorcees admit they stopped bringing up problems because it seemed easier than fighting. One ex-husband confessed, &ldquo;<em>I stored up resentments like a squirrel hoards nuts, then exploded when the tree got too full<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many divorced folks laugh now about their communication breakdowns, but the pain was real. &ldquo;<em>I thought I was being patient by not complaining<\/em>,&rdquo; shares Melissa, 42. &ldquo;<em>Turns out I was just building my exit strategy without even knowing it<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Kept Date Night Sacred<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Spoke-Up-Instead-of-Shutting-Down.jpg\" alt=\"Kept Date Night Sacred\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Kept Date Night Sacred\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Spoke-Up-Instead-of-Shutting-Down.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/man-in-gray-suit-standing-beside-woman-in-green-dress-3664688\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Juan Vargas<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Remember when you couldn&rsquo;t wait to see each other? Survey says 81% of divorcees wish they hadn&rsquo;t let Netflix replace actual dates. &ldquo;<em>We went from fancy restaurants to fighting over the remote<\/em>,&rdquo; jokes Tom, 39, who realized too late that his marriage needed maintenance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The funny thing about romance is that it doesn&rsquo;t die&mdash;it gets buried under laundry piles and work emails. One divorcee admitted she and her ex spent more time picking a show to watch than actually talking to each other.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Weekly date nights might seem like a luxury, but divorcees rate them cheaper than lawyers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Called a Therapist Before a Lawyer<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Kept-Date-Night-Sacred.jpg\" alt=\"Called a Therapist Before a Lawyer\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Called a Therapist Before a Lawyer\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Kept-Date-Night-Sacred.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CzWxRiwvbTw\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; southbaytherapyca<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Only 19% of couples try therapy before filing for divorce&mdash;a statistic that makes therapists face-palm nationwide. &ldquo;<em>We spent $30,000 on our wedding but wouldn&rsquo;t spend $150 on a counseling session<\/em>,&rdquo; one divorcee quipped. &ldquo;<em>Math was clearly not our strong suit<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The average couple waits six years after problems start before seeking help. By then, resentment has usually set up permanent residence in the spare bedroom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many divorcees laugh through tears when admitting they finally tried therapy during divorce proceedings&mdash;to figure out how to co-parent. &ldquo;<em>Talk about closing the barn door after the horse has left and started dating someone new<\/em>,&rdquo; said James, 45.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Kept Some Hobbies Just for Me<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Called-a-Therapist-Before-a-Lawyer.jpg\" alt=\"Kept Some Hobbies Just for Me\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Kept Some Hobbies Just for Me\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Called-a-Therapist-Before-a-Lawyer.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-taking-picture-using-camera-610294\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; David Bartus<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Nearly 60% of divorcees report losing their identity somewhere between &ldquo;I do&rdquo; and &ldquo;I don&rsquo;t anymore.&rdquo; Sarah, 38, chuckles when recalling how she abandoned her painting for her husband&rsquo;s weekend football routine. &ldquo;<em>I became such a football expert that after we split, I won the office fantasy league three years running&mdash;my divorce trophy<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Merged identities might sound romantic, but they&rsquo;re relationship quicksand. Many ex-spouses confess they became so enmeshed they couldn&rsquo;t remember what they liked before marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"<em>We even shared a Facebook account<\/em>,&rdquo; admitted one divorcee. &ldquo;<em>If that&rsquo;s not a relationship red flag, I don&rsquo;t know what is!<\/em>\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Talked About Money Without Fighting<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Kept-Some-Hobbies-Just-for-Me.jpg\" alt=\"Talked About Money Without Fighting\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Talked About Money Without Fighting\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Kept-Some-Hobbies-Just-for-Me.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/stressed-couple-explaining-things-to-each-other-6964106\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Mikhail Nilov<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Financial fights cause 41% of divorces, yet most couples would rather discuss anything else&mdash;even their in-laws&rsquo; weird political views. &ldquo;<em>We communicated about money by leaving passive-aggressive Post-it notes on the credit card bills<\/em>,&rdquo; jokes former husband Ricardo, 44.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The comedy of errors continues with couples who maintained separate accounts but separate realities. One divorcee laughed that she discovered her husband&rsquo;s true salary only during divorce proceedings. &ldquo;<em>I was simultaneously furious and impressed<\/em>!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most divorced folks agree: nothing kills romance faster than surprise debt, except maybe finding out your spouse has a secret &ldquo;fun money&rdquo; account while you&rsquo;ve been clipping coupons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. Set Boundaries With the In-Laws<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Talked-About-Money-Without-Fighting.jpg\" alt=\"Set Boundaries With the In-Laws\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Set Boundaries With the In-Laws\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Talked-About-Money-Without-Fighting.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/C4cS99EOTvV\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; everybodylovesraymond360<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>A whopping 58% of divorcees cite in-law interference as a major marriage stressor. &ldquo;<em>My mother-in-law rearranged our furniture when we were at work<\/em>,&rdquo; recalls Deena, 36. &ldquo;<em>I should have rearranged her expectations instead of just complaining to my friends<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The boundary-free zone extends to parents who offered unwanted advice, made surprise visits, and criticized everything from parenting styles to pasta sauce recipes. One ex-husband still laughs about his former father-in-law who insisted on mowing their lawn weekly&mdash;at 7 AM on Saturdays.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"<em>We joke that my in-laws got divorced from me too,<\/em>&rdquo; says former wife Jessica. &ldquo;<em>Except they clearly got custody of my ex<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. Argued to Resolve, Not to Win<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Set-Boundaries-With-the-In-Laws.jpg\" alt=\"Argued to Resolve, Not to Win\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Argued to Resolve, Not to Win\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-7\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Set-Boundaries-With-the-In-Laws.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-wearing-black-bra-and-white-tank-top-raising-both-hands-on-top-347135\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Tirachard Kumtanom<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Being right feels amazing&mdash;until you&rsquo;re right and alone. According to relationship experts, 65% of marital arguments never get resolved; they just get recycled. &ldquo;<em>I kept a mental scorecard of wins and losses<\/em>,&rdquo; admits former husband David, 51. &ldquo;Turns out my perfect record earned me a perfect divorce.&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The irony isn&rsquo;t lost on divorcees who now co-parent with their exes. Many report that they communicate better post-divorce than during marriage because the pressure to &ldquo;win&rdquo; is gone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One divorcee jokes that she and her ex should have recorded their circular arguments to save time. &ldquo;<em>We could have just played the tape instead of having the same fight about loading the dishwasher for ten years straight.<\/em>\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. Took Off the Rose-Colored Glasses<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Argued-to-Resolve-Not-to-Win.jpg\" alt=\"Took Off the Rose-Colored Glasses\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Took Off the Rose-Colored Glasses\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Argued-to-Resolve-Not-to-Win.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.flickr.com\/photos\/almostinfamous\/3531123548\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Flickr<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The red flags were apparently on full display&mdash;just conveniently color-shifted to pink through love-tinted lenses. A surprising 71% of divorcees admit they ignored major compatibility issues during dating. &ldquo;<em>He told me he hated dogs on our third date, while I was walking my three puppies<\/em>,&rdquo; laughs former wife Tanya, 40. &ldquo;<em>Somehow I convinced myself he&rsquo;d change<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many divorcees report comical moments of clarity years into marriage. One ex-husband realized his fundamental incompatibility when he found himself alphabetizing the spice rack his spontaneous wife had reorganized by color.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"<em>My friends created a drinking game based on how often I said &lsquo;but he&rsquo;ll change<\/em>,'&rdquo; admits one divorcee. &ldquo;<em>They all needed liver tests by our second anniversary<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. Said &lsquo;Thank You&rsquo; More Than &lsquo;You Should&rsquo;<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Took-Off-the-Rose-Colored-Glasses.jpg\" alt=\"Said 'Thank You' More Than 'You Should'\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Said 'Thank You' More Than 'You Should'\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-9\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Took-Off-the-Rose-Colored-Glasses.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/thank-you-signage-2072165\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; George Dolgikh<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Gratitude apparently has a longer shelf life than criticism. Research shows happy couples maintain a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions, while divorcing couples average 0.8:1. &ldquo;<em>I mastered the art of the heavy sigh and eye roll<\/em>,&rdquo; confesses ex-wife Jordan, 47. &ldquo;<em>I could communicate disappointment without saying a word&mdash;a skill that impressed no one<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The appreciation deficit compounds over time. Many divorcees report falling into a pattern where they only noticed what wasn&rsquo;t done, never what was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One ex-husband jokes that he created a &ldquo;Complaint Box&rdquo; for his wife&rsquo;s criticisms. &ldquo;<em>It filled up so fast we needed a second one. Meanwhile, the &lsquo;Compliment Box&rsquo; remained empty enough to echo<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. Found My Own Happiness First<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Said.jpg\" alt=\"Found My Own Happiness First\"><\/noscript><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20300%20300'%3E%3Crect%20width='300'%20height='300'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"Found My Own Happiness First\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-10\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/06\/Said.jpg\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"lazyload\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">\n                <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pexels.com\/photo\/woman-using-umbrella-with-lights-573238\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&copy; Matheus Bertelli<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>The most ironic divorce revelation? Nearly 80% of divorcees discovered personal happiness only after their marriages ended. &ldquo;<em>I expected my husband to be my everything&mdash;best friend, therapist, handyman, and mind reader<\/em>,&rdquo; admits former wife Elena, 38. &ldquo;<em>The poor guy never stood a chance against that job description<\/em>.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many laugh about their unrealistic expectations now. One ex-husband jokes that his emotional dependency was so severe, he once called his wife at work to ask which cereal he preferred for breakfast.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The post-divorce glow-up is real. &ldquo;<em>I finally took that pottery class I&rsquo;d been talking about for years<\/em>,&rdquo; says one divorcee. &ldquo;<em>Turns out I&rsquo;m terrible at pottery but great at being happy on my own<\/em>.\"<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Breaking up is hard to do, especially when you&rsquo;ve said &ldquo;I do.&rdquo; According to recent surveys, nearly 50% of marriages in the United States end &hellip;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":18,"featured_media":5660,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"syndication_tool_enabled":true,"syndication_tool_title":"","syndication_tool_excerpt":"","syndication_tool_featured_image":0,"syndication_tool_publish_date":"","syndication_tool_schema_types":["gallery"],"syndication_tool_backlink_enable":false,"syndication_tool_ai_disclosure_enable":false,"disable-in-feed":false,"article-schema-type":"","disable-critical-css":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[179,181],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-71430","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-advice","category-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71430","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/18"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=71430"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71430\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":71444,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/71430\/revisions\/71444"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/5660"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=71430"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=71430"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=71430"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}