{"id":89314,"date":"2025-10-24T23:00:00","date_gmt":"2025-10-24T21:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/?p=89314"},"modified":"2025-10-24T12:35:06","modified_gmt":"2025-10-24T10:35:06","slug":"signs-nice-guy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/zh\/signs-nice-guy\/","title":{"rendered":"9 Signs He\u2019s Got That Unmistakable \u201cNice Guy\u201d Syndrome"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-3::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-3{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-4::before{padding-top:54.583333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-4{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-5::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-5{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-6::before{padding-top:66.25%; }img#mv-trellis-img-6{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-7::before{padding-top:75%; }img#mv-trellis-img-7{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-8::before{padding-top:56.333333333333%; }img#mv-trellis-img-8{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-9::before{padding-top:66.666666666667%; }img#mv-trellis-img-9{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p>I&rsquo;m sure there&rsquo;s no need to explain what a &ldquo;nice guy&rdquo; persona is when it&rsquo;s one of the most memed things on the internet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Spotting a nice guy isn&rsquo;t always obvious at first glance, and you might even find yourself genuinely buying into his niceness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But trust me, once you know what to look for, those signs become pretty clear.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are 9 ways to tell <strong>he&rsquo;s just pretending<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. He&rsquo;s Doing Too Much Too Soon<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89318\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89318\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89318 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-2-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>If he&rsquo;s overly eager to please you when you haven&rsquo;t actually established any kind of relationship, that&rsquo;s a bad sign.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He opens doors, showers you with compliments, acts like you&rsquo;re old friends, meanwhile, he&rsquo;s the guy you accidentally met just the other day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While kindness and gentlemanly behavior are great, you can tell when <strong>it&rsquo;s performative<\/strong> &ndash; like he&rsquo;s trying to buy your affection right off the bat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s often just a trap.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He&rsquo;s craving validation, and thinks that acting this way will let him get something from you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u8fd9\u662f <strong>far from authentic<\/strong>, and you&rsquo;ll see the signs as long as you pay attention.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. He Plays a Victim When Things Don&rsquo;t Go His Way<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89333\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89333\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89333 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-1-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Nice guys are usually quick to get passive-aggressive the moment you refuse to do what they want.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Maybe he&rsquo;s expecting a certain response &ndash; like attention, a date, or a hug &ndash; and when it doesn&rsquo;t happen, suddenly he&rsquo;s a misunderstood, kind fool, and you&rsquo;re a succubus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of accepting reality, and maybe realizing that <strong>his expectations weren&rsquo;t realistic<\/strong> to begin with, he sulks and plays the victim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This kind of behavior is perhaps the clearest sign that he&rsquo;s a nice guy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They have the tendency to build a fantasy in their heads, and when the reality doesn&rsquo;t match up, it&rsquo;s everyone else&rsquo;s fault but theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a manipulative attempt to <strong>keep control<\/strong> and feed their ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. He Expects Constant Validation<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89332\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1026\" height=\"684\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89332\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7.jpg 1026w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1026\" height=\"684\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201026%20684'%3E%3Crect%20width='1026'%20height='684'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89332 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-3\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7.jpg 1026w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-7-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>One of the clearest signs is his desire to get <strong>acknowledged for his niceness<\/strong>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This type of man tends to consider basic decency as a favor he&rsquo;s doing for you, and that&rsquo;s why he might expect gratitude and validation around the clock.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And if you fail to give him recognition &ndash; make no mistake, you&rsquo;ll have a<strong> guilt-trip<\/strong> coming your way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Many of them don&rsquo;t seem to understand that genuine kindness isn&rsquo;t about getting a trophy, but about feeling good about yourself for being kind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This unspoken expectation of praise is one of the signs to look out for!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. He Feels Entitled to Your Attention<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89323\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"655\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89323\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-300x164.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-1024x559.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-768x419.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-960x524.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-1080x589.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-170x93.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"655\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20655'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='655'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89323 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-4\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-300x164.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-1024x559.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-768x419.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-960x524.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-1080x589.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-6-170x93.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Impatience is one of the first signs you&rsquo;ll need to look for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s not a strong suit of most nice guys, so they&rsquo;re known for getting irritated or passive-aggressive if they don&rsquo;t get a text back as soon as they expected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He feels entitled to your attention and time because &ldquo;he&rsquo;s so good to you!&rdquo;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And this really isn&rsquo;t about genuine interest; it&rsquo;s about him<strong> trying to establish control<\/strong> over you early on.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He expects to be a priority because, in his mind, being nice means <strong>you owe him affection<\/strong>, regardless of how you might feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. He Shows His True Colors When He&rsquo;s Rejected<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89320\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89320\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89320 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-5\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-3-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Here&rsquo;s the ultimate sign &ndash; the moment when the mask finally slips.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>His nice behavior is nothing more than a front. When he doesn&rsquo;t get the contact info, the date, or the attention, that&rsquo;s when his true personality comes to the surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He might become cold, dismissive, or passive-aggressive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That&rsquo;s why his only goal was to get something from you, and the <strong>&ldquo;niceness&rdquo; was just a tool<\/strong> \u6765\u5f97\u5230\u5b83\u3002&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When his performance isn&rsquo;t rewarded, he&rsquo;s quick to reveal his entitlement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. He&rsquo;s Trying to &ldquo;Win&rdquo; You Over<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89321\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"795\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89321\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-1080x715.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"795\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20795'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='795'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-89321 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-6\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-1024x678.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-768x509.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-960x636.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-1080x715.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-4-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Nice guys look at dating as a competition in which they get to win you over and get the prize.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He&rsquo;ll go above and beyond. He might shower you with compliments, do favors, or act overly attentive, but none of those are usually authentic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They&rsquo;re just a<strong> part of his tactic<\/strong>, and not an actual expression of how he feels about you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you can&rsquo;t tell if his actions are genuine or performative, that&rsquo;s another sign to note.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The whole thing isn&rsquo;t about his feelings for you, but about securing his ego.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. 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They&rsquo;re quick to offer help, a shoulder to cry on, or just make themselves available.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>However, the moment you don&rsquo;t need or he perceives that you might not like him that way, he becomes cold.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And sadly, many of them don&rsquo;t just give up and disappear; they become <strong>\u88ab\u52a8\u653b\u51fb<\/strong>\uff0c\u751a\u81f3\u662f <strong>\u65e0\u793c<\/strong> in some instances.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This is a clear sign that his niceness was just a ploy to get validation. When the reward isn&rsquo;t there, he checks out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a classic case of doing something for their own ego; it was never about you or your friendship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. He Talks Badly About Other Men or Women<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89146\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling.jpg\" alt=\"no attraction\" class=\"wp-image-89146\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-170x96.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"676\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20676'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='676'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"no attraction\" class=\"wp-image-89146 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-8\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-1024x577.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-18x10.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-728x410.jpg 728w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-480x270.jpg 480w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-320x180.jpg 320w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-960x541.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-1080x608.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/attraction-feeling-170x96.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>A subtle but telling sign is that he often talks smack about other men and women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You know the one &ndash; other guys are so shallow compared to him, and all those other girls are nothing compared to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This reveals his <strong>\u4e0d\u5b89\u5168\u611f<\/strong> and deep-seated need to be seen as better or more deserving.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a sad <strong>defensive tactic<\/strong>; he needs to put others down in order to elevate himself.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&rsquo;s a clear sign of someone craving validation, thinking they&rsquo;re entitled to your attention, and insecure about their own worth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. He&rsquo;s Actually Very Self-Centered<\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image size-full wp-image-89322\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5.jpg\" alt=\"signs nice guy\" class=\"wp-image-89322\" srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1200\" height=\"800\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%201200%20800'%3E%3Crect%20width='1200'%20height='800'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"signs nice guy\" class=\"wp-image-89322 lazyload\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 40px), 728px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-9\" data-src=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5.jpg\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-1024x683.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-18x12.jpg 18w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-960x640.jpg 960w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-1080x720.jpg 1080w, https:\/\/angelynum.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/nice-guy-5-170x113.jpg 170w\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/unsplash.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&copy; Unsplash<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>Ultimately, his actions are only about him. 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