Finding Your Soulmate: 7 Mistakes to Avoid in Your Quest for Finding Love

Let’s be real, we are all fascinated by the idea of soulmates. Having someone designed just for us? That’s a dream come true.

This person accepts you for who you are, inside and out. A soul mate will be attracted to you no matter what because you have been connected since birth.

There’s one story that suggests that humans were once made out of both male and female parts, but they were too powerful so God split them up and made them search for each other. 

This story perfectly captures our journeys today, as we are all in a craze to find that special someone!

Can Everyone Find a Soulmate?

The answer to this question is sadly ‘no.’ Not everyone finds their soulmate because they don’t reach a specific spiritual maturity.

If you are preoccupied with everyday tasks and routines, you will never see the importance of finding a soulmate.

Fret not though, not finding a soulmate can still lead to self–discovery and new information about yourself, so it’s not so gloomy after all!

Why Can’t I Find My Soulmate?

Your quest for love won’t just be about meeting the person and living happily ever after. You need to do some introspection first.

Ask yourself what you could be doing wrong and are you even ready to embark on this journey?

Finding yourself is as important as finding a soulmate.

While there may be many different reasons as to why your lover isn’t next to you, let’s delve into the 7 most probable ones:

7. Fate is Doing its Job

Have you ever stopped to think that maybe some higher strings are being pulled?

There’s a high chance that you haven’t met your partner because fate has its hands meddled in there and you’re not listening to their signals.

Ignoring your intuition in these things is like ignoring a car honking while you’re walking straight toward it.

Get in tune with yourself and your intuition so that you may trek on the right path toward the one you love.

6. You’re not Being Yourself

I often hear that people want someone who will love them no matter what, for all their flaws and perfections, yet they don’t really show the real picture.

Often, they don’t even know who they really are. First, you need to meet yourself and then let others meet you!

If you haven’t met your soulmate, chances are you’re not being yourself!

5. You’re Chasing the Wrong Ones

If your goal is to find someone who will stick by your side no matter what, then it’s time to work on your strategy.

If you’re filling that space next to you with someone who’s just… meh, then you need to take a step back and remember why you’re doing this.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to date, you can do whatever you want, but if you’re constantly trying to fill that space with people you don’t care about, then you’ll never find your soulmate.

It’s very unlikely that a casual fling or a situationship going on for months will ever turn into anything more than that. 

Your soulmate will embrace you with open arms and an open heart.

4. The Timing Isn’t Right

We often deem this sentence a cliché, but in reality, it happens more than we would care to admit.

Getting things to align perfectly for one event to take place is a very tedious job. 

At least, you may find comfort in the fact that the Universe is pulling its strings to have you two together, or maybe you’re just not ready yet and the Universe knows it.

It doesn’t want you to mess up your shot, what a great wingman!

This might be a great time for you to do some inner work, heal your fears and open your heart to new adventures.

3. You’re Stuck in a Loop

Basically, you have a type and a pattern. You are attracted to the same type of person and you repeat the same exact mistakes you did in your past relationship.

Think about it, were all your exes older than you? Maybe they were all controlling or emotionally unavailable?

Think about all of their personalities and you’ll be able to pull out a pattern.

Their problems might reveal the problems that you’ll need to work on in order to attract your soulmate.

2. You Got Comfortable

It’s simple, you might have gotten comfortable.

You’re used to the same old things from your previous relationships, you got cozy with them and now you’re too afraid to start fresh.

The problem with this is that you’ll let anything slide. You’re not looking at the bigger picture here because you don’t care anymore.

Someone amazing and beautiful is waiting for you if you’ll just step out of your comfort zone!

1. Leave the Past in the Past

Have you ever been on a date with someone who constantly talked about their ex and how they did them dirty? Now look in the mirror.

That someone is you. Pulling that baggage with you is so tiring. I know that it can be hard to let go, especially if that someone did you so dirty.

You even feel like the magnitude of the breakup justifies the long suffering. This suffering prevents you from letting in new feelings and experiences.

Let go of the heavy baggage and start fresh!

All in All

Searching for love is a long and complicated path, with many distractions, obstacles and confusing side-roads along the way. 

Dating is a tedious job and if you don’t have the patience and spiritual maturity then you will never find a soulmate.

Going through this process will lead you to significant personal growth and even strengthen your relationship with your partner.

All of these experiences are helpful, even though they are challenging. It’s important to learn new lessons and prepare yourself for the relationship ahead.