10 Phrases Women Use When They Can’t Be Trusted

There are certain phrases women or people in general may use when they are not truthful.

If these phrases are repeated all the time, even when unprovoked and out of the blue, they could mean that there is more that needs to be discussed and talked about.

Pay attention to these phrases and try to see if they are being overly used. If so, it could be time to have a more serious conversation.

1. “Trust me, I’d never lie to you.”

The more someone says they’re honest, the less convincing it sounds. This phrase is a typical red flag because trust isn’t established by saying the same thing again and over; it’s built by doing the same thing that reassures you of their love.

If a lady says this too often, she might be trying to hide her dishonesty or calm your fears without telling the truth.

People who are trustworthy frequently show it by how they act. When trust is often overemphasized, it can be a symptom of insecurity or a deeper problem.

2. “It’s not a big deal, don’t overthink it.”

If you say something is “not a big deal,” it could suggest the opposite. People commonly use this remark to keep people from paying attention to acts or details that need more focus.

It might make you feel bad for asking questions, but in actuality, it could be a way to stop your curiosity. Some of them could encourage you not to overthink because they don’t want you to find out all of the details.

Women who are honest are willing to answer questions; they don’t stop them.

3. “Why would I ever do that?”

This sounds like a denial on the surface. But in reality, it’s typically a means to avoid offering a straight answer. Instead of answering your question, it turns the spotlight back on you, making you feel bad for asking.

This phrase is not clarifying; it’s defensive. A person you can trust will usually give straightforward justifications or explanations. Someone who is hiding the truth, on the other hand, can use rhetorical questions.

When you hear this, it could be a good idea to pay more attention to what isn’t being spoken.

4. “You’re just being paranoid.”

This sentence puts the blame on the listener instead of the speaker, which makes you question your gut feelings. Gaslighting typically starts with something like this, when real worries are called paranoia.

It might be a strategy to avoid taking responsibility and make you doubt your own point of view. It doesn’t give you comfort; it makes you mistrust yourself.

If a woman uses this term a lot when she’s being challenged, it might not be because she’s seeing you as “paranoid” but because she doesn’t want the truth to come out.

5. “I don’t remember saying that.”

When someone doesn’t want to own up to what they said, selective memory can help. It’s normal for people to forget things, but using this statement over and over is strange.

It seems like they want to get rid of uncomfortable details or not be responsible. A lady who “doesn’t remember” important things may be trying to change the story to make herself look better.

It’s normal for people to forget something they said, but patterns of convenient forgetfulness frequently mean someone is lying. Look at how often this term comes up and in what context.

6. “It’s complicated, you wouldn’t understand.”

This sentence puts up a wall instead of making things clearer. The speaker shuts down questioning and keeps control of the story by declaring things are “too complicated.”

It makes things seem mysterious, but most of the time, it’s just a means to hide things that are hard to deal with. When there is trust, explanations are usually made simple to help people comprehend, not kept secret to create distance.

If someone keeps saying “you wouldn’t understand,” it may be less about how complicated something is and more about hiding it on purpose.

7. “I was just joking.”

Using comedy to deflect is a typical way to avoid taking responsibility or make difficult realities less harsh. Someone can push your limits when they make a problematic comment that sounds like a joke.

If they get caught, they hide behind humor and say you’re overreacting. It’s fine to tease someone in a fun way, but if you keep saying “I was just joking” to avoid major problems, that could be a red flag.

It often hides deeper sentiments or acts that shouldn’t be completely revealed. You shouldn’t always feel bad after hearing a joke.

8. “I’ve told you everything.”

If someone says they’ve told you “everything,” they probably haven’t. People commonly say this when questions reach too close to the truth. It’s a technique to end curiosity while sounding definitive and complete.

But true honesty doesn’t mind being asked questions; in fact, it embraces them. Saying that “everything” has been discussed can be a way to conclude the conversation too soon.

If there is actual transparency, there is no need for defensive statements. It’s the little things that show trust, not generalizations.

9. “You’re making something out of nothing.”

This remark downplays your worries and avoids taking responsibility. It’s a popular way to get people to focus on how you react instead of the problem itself.

If women say you’re exaggerating, it makes your sentiments less important and takes the topic away from the truth. People do sometimes overreact, but if you hear this remark a lot, it could mean that someone is trying to control you.

A woman who values trust would listen to what you have to say and not dismiss it as “nothing.”

10. “I’m just tired, can we talk later?”

Of course, everyone gets worn out. But if this term keeps coming up at important times, it could be a way to stall.

You can make excuses, change stories, or dodge the truth altogether by putting off conversations. It’s not harmful if you only do it once in a while, but if you use it all the time, it’s worth mentioning.

People you can trust may require some time apart, but they will come back to you. People who can’t be trusted typically want you to forget about it or stop talking about it. Delays might be just as revealing as denials.