Getting into a serious relationship shouldn’t be something we do just to have fun or avoid loneliness.
We need to be emotionally prepared to commit and mature enough to handle ups and downs. If you’re not feeling ready, it’s better to take a break and reflect rather than rush into anything.
There’s no shame in admitting that you’re just not there yet, so check yourself for these 9 signs. It might help you evitare di più crepacuore.
1. Always Asking Your Friends for Advice
If most decisions about your love life are based on your friends’ advice and not your own gut, that’s a sign you’re not ready for a real relationship just yet.
Having support from friends is great, but they’re not the ones who should be calling the shots.
Relying too much on them means that, deep down, you know you’re not ready.
We all need advice sometimes, but constantly turning to others for their opinions or convalida means you’re not confident in your own choices.
Trusting your gut is a big part of building a healthy relationship.
If you’re constantly doubting your instincts, you might still be emotionally insecure or unprepared to navigate the complexities of real love.
2. You Need Constant Validation
If you feel like you must always put on a show to impress your partner and get their validation, it’s a serious red flag.
A serious relationship requires us to be authentic.
When you’re constantly performing, it shows you’re seeking external reassurance rather than feeling secure in yourself and your partner.
This kind of behavior can stem from low self-esteem or insecurity.
When two people can accept each other’s flaws and just be themselves, that’s real love.
If you always feel the need for praise and validation, it shows you’re not emotionally ready to be vulnerable and authentic in a relationship.
3. You Still Choose Quantity Over Quality in Dating
If you consider having a roster of people available to you a success, you’re far from ready for a serious relationship.
Quick hookups and superficial dates can be fun, but they rarely have any sostanza, and you’re not going to get real love from them.
When you focus on numbers, you’re ignoring the importance of intimità emotiva.
It doesn’t matter how many people you date, but how deeply connected you are to them.
A profound connection with a single person will always be more fulfilling than hopping from one date to another.
So, if you’re still chasing short-term gratification, you’re not in the right mindset for a real relationship.
4. You Can’t Stand Being Single
If being single makes you restless, and you’re often dating just to avoid loneliness, that’s a clear sign you’re not emotionally prepared for a committed relationship.
Rushing into something just to fill the void means you’re not giving yourself time to grow or understand what you really want.
In order for a healthy relationship to work, both partners need to be self-aware and independent.
If dating is still just a way to distract yourself from your issues, you’ll just set yourself up for disappointment or dependency if you force real love to happen now.
Imparare a godere della propria compagnia first and work on yourself before bringing someone else into it.
5. You Expect Constant Fireworks
Sure, there are sparks even in the most long-term relationships. However, they’re not constant.
If you expect to constantly be swept off your feet, you’re not ready for the real thing just yet.
Love takes work, patience, and compromise, and these things don’t really spell fireworks. Excitement and romantic gestures are great, but they’re just one part of it.
Expecting constant butterflies can lead to disappointment when the honeymoon phase ends, and life kicks in.
Healthy relationships are filled with quiet, mundane moments that provide safety and comfort. If you’re not able to see how valuable that is, you’re not ready yet.
6. You Keep Scores on Affection in a Relationship
If you feel the need to track who called first, who bought the other a more expensive gift, and who initiated intimacy two out of three times, you’re not there yet.
Love should be spontaneous and genuine, so it can’t really work in shifts. Sure, reciprocation is a given, but there’s no need to keep score on every little thing.
When you do that, it means you’re more focused on control than connection.
Turning love into a competition means you’re simply not ready for a mature relationship. It should feel natural, not transactional.
7. You Don’t Let Yourself Be Vulnerable
If vulnerability feels impossible or if you’re still using humor to deflect, a real relationship simply won’t work out.
True intimacy requires openness and the courage to show your authentic self – warts and all.
When you’re afraid to be vulnerable, it’s usually because you fear rejection, or you’ve been hurt before. It’s also possible that you’re not with the right person.
Always keeping others at arm’s length prevents real connection.
If you avoid meaningful conversations and hide behind humor, you’re not emotionally prepared to handle the depth and challenges of a serious relationship.
8. You Ghost as Soon as It Gets Tough
Difficulty and disagreements are inevitable whenever we’re around other people; whether it’s a friendship, a relationship with a romantic partner or family, you won’t always see eye to eye.
If your first instinct is to ghost when there’s a conflict, you’re not equipped for a real relationship.
It requires patience and a problem-solving mindset.
Running away at the first sign of trouble shows you still don’t have what it takes to work through issues.
Ghosting is avoidance. Building resilience and learning to handle conflict is non-negotiable when it comes to real love.
9. You Base Your Expectations on Movies
If your idea of love is still based on romantic tropes, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.
These tropes are usually exaggerated, idealized, and rarely present any real issues we encounter in relationships.
Real love requires effort, and it can be clumsy and ordinary.
When you expect big moments and grand gestures, you’re ignoring what it means to have a real partnership.
Yes, there’s plenty of romance in real relationships, but there’s also a lot of compromise, flaws, and patience.
You’re not ready for the real thing yet if your standards are still irrealistico.
A little Aquarius, devoted to writing and embroidery. Through my writing, I hope to empower readers to align with their true selves and navigate life’s mysteries with confidence.