If you are a person who constantly gives, rejects your own needs for the needs of others, and was taught that being small was a virtue, it is time to wake up.
Self-neglect and losing yourself are not characteristics that make you holy or that help others.
Let’s dive into why you should put yourself first if you truly want to help others and be a good person.
The Myth That Self-Neglect Is Virtue
A lot of individuals are taught that being decent and unselfish means putting others first. But as time goes on, this belief becomes a great weight.
The belief that sacrifice equals holiness changes the meaning of love in a spiritual way. You don’t get true virtue by getting rid of yourself; you get it by finding equilibrium.
When you keep giving and not getting anything in return, you lose touch with your own soul. The world doesn’t need you tired or hidden; it needs you to be whole and true to yourself.
It is holy to care for others, but not when it costs you peace of mind. When you include yourself in the circle of compassion, you start to be truly virtuous.
When Giving Becomes Disappearing
Being generous and destroying should not be the same thing. A kind heart wants to help, but if you give too much, you lose yourself.
Overgiving spiritually means that you think love has to be gained by service. When you forget what you need, your energy goes down, and resentment progressively takes the place of kindness.
Love is not one-sided; it is mutual. When you learn to give without sacrificing yourself, you can stay kind. It’s simple: saying “no” doesn’t mean you’re selfish; it means you’re honest and protective about your love.
The world needs people who are willing to offer and who also realize their worth, not martyrs who have lost touch with their own hearts.
The Burnout of the Soul
Not taking care of oneself doesn’t only make you tired; it also makes you feel bad. When you spend all day serving other people’s demands, your own aspirations and desires fade away.
This is the creeping loss of purpose on a spiritual level. The universe made each person with their own energy so they can create, enjoy, and evolve, not just serve. If you don’t follow your calling, you lose that holy flame.
Burnout doesn’t mean you’re weak; it’s your soul telling you to “come back home.” Taking care of yourself, resting, and imagining things are not luxuries; they are how your spirit gets lighter.
The Guilt That Keeps You Small
People who don’t take care of themselves often feel bad about wanting to relax or have fun. They’ve been taught that putting yourself first is selfish. This guilt is a false teaching that masks the truth.
The world told you to get smaller if you wanted to be loved. You were meant to shine, not say you’re sorry for being here. When guilt is in charge, joy seems wrong, and life turns into a fight to stay alive instead of a celebration.
The true measure of holiness lies not in the extent of your suffering, but in the depth of your devotion to your own heart. Choosing yourself is not going against the rules; it’s remembering who you truly are. It is saying yes to the divine inside.
The Disconnection From Your Own Voice
Your inner voice gets quieter when you keep ignoring your demands. You stop asking for what you want, and after a while, you forget how to answer.
This is forgetting yourself spiritually, which is moving away from your gut feeling and the truth. If you don’t listen to your inner voice, your decisions will be reactive instead of aligned.
You want people to like you, so you hide the real you. But your inner voice is holy; it’s how the universe talks to you.
To recall yourself, you need to listen again and believe that your sensations are not problems but messages. Your path gets clearer when you get that voice back, and confusion turns into peace.
The Loss of Joy and Inspiration
Self-neglect takes away the color from life. Days start to blend together, and even things that used to make you happy seem far away. This numbness comes spiritually when your energy just goes out and never comes back in.
Your spirit is starved for attention, which makes your originality and curiosity diminish. The answer isn’t to work harder; it’s to reconnect.
Do things that make you happy, even if they’re minor. You don’t get joy from working hard; work should only be your means to live your true life.
The more you take care of your happiness, the easier it will be to share it. Remember that inspiration starts when you stop ignoring yourself.
The Sacred Act of Remembering Yourself
Taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s sacred. It means deciding that your own light is worth caring for. This act brings you back in line with the divine truth that your mind, physical being, and energy are all holy vessels.
Taking care of them makes it easier for you to love other people. Reconnecting starts with tiny decisions: take a break when you’re exhausted, say no when you’re drained, and honor what offers you peace of mind.
Remembering who you are is like coming back to equilibrium, when you realize that taking care of yourself and helping others can go hand in hand. When you get back to yourself, everything else starts to get better, too.
Holiness Is Wholeness
The biggest mistake is thinking that being holy means being empty. Being full of light, grounded, and alive is what it means to be truly holy.
Loving yourself should not be seen as being vain; it is actually being thankful for the life you have. You cut yourself off from the source of that light when you don’t take care of yourself.
But when you take care of your spirit, it’s easy to be more compassionate. You stop helping because you have to, and start helping because you want to. To remember yourself is to recall the holy spark that exists inside you.
The best gift you can give the world is not your tiredness, but your presence: alive, centered, and full of love.
Returning To The Self Is Returning To God
Neglecting yourself is not being humble; it is forgetting the divine that is inside you. The universe doesn’t want you to suffer; it wants you to be completo.
Loving oneself is a way to thank creation for what it has done for you. You become a channel for serenity when you respect your needs. The sin was never desiring more; it was thinking you didn’t deserve it.
Going back to yourself means going back to trust, harmony, and happiness. When you recall how valuable you are, you reconnect with the holy truth: you were never supposed to fade away; you were created to shine.
Born and raised in Bosnia and Herzegovina. Ever since I was a little girl, my imagination knew no bounds. I remember vividly how I’d scribble down short stories, each page bursting with adventures and characters conjured up from the whimsy of my mind. These stories weren’t just for me; they were my way of connecting with my friends, offering them a slice of my fantasy world during our playtimes. The joy and excitement on their faces as we dived into my fictional realms motivated me to keep writing. This early passion for storytelling naturally evolved into my pursuit of writing, turning a childhood hobby into a fulfilling career.