Does that sound somehow familiar?
It’s not you, it’s me!
Regardless of whether we say or hear this, we should ask ourselves what it actually means. Do we mean it seriously and honestly? Or is it just an excuse when we want to break up with someone?
I’m not going to comment on the second situation at all. It just doesn’t make sense. If you want to dump someone (or someone dumps you), he or she is going to do it anyway.
But, if you really meant what you said, that’s another thing to think about. Why?
Have we really thought about what’s wrong with us, what’s going on, what’s wrong?
Do situations, people, patterns or experiences keep repeating themselves in our lives?
If so – when? And what do you do about it?
Perhaps you will find answers to these questions in the rest of the text.
Here are the reasons why people let each zodiac sign stay put
Whether they want to admit it or not.
There are some character traits that you can put up with, that the other person can correct or adjust.
But unfortunately, there are also those that you can’t live with or simply can’t tolerate.
What are these experiences for each sign in the zodiac?
Also read the text for your Ascendant as well as your Venus sign.
This will give you the whole picture and things can then become clearer.
Aries: Impulsiveness
Aries are known to be impatient and impulsive. However, it’s problematic when this impulsiveness turns into aggression. They don’t think as much (or at all) before they act or react to something.
This can then hurt other parties and even make it seem like they don’t care. But it is quite the opposite. So many feelings cause such reactions. But this often bothers their partners because they always have to be careful about what to say and how.
Taurus: harboring resentment
Stubbornness is not such a bad quality in Taurus. Because there is resentment in square 1. If something bad happened or if there was an argument, Taurus will remember it forever.
Every little thing your partner has done wrong will have a place in Taurus’ mind forever. Maybe they won’t say it right away or complain, but holding a lot of grudges becomes toxic over time. Not just for other people, but also for the person holding the grudge.
Gemini: free-spiritedness
This should basically be a positive thing, but for most Geminis (and air signs in general) it can go to an extreme. So much do they always want to be free and independent that they find it harder and harder to stay in one place as time goes on.
Even getting into a committed relationship with someone becomes more and more problematic. If in a relationship, the Gemini’s partner will either become bossy or authoritative, or leave them. In the first case, the Gemini will flee faster than they arrived in the relationship. But in either case, they will break up.
Cancer: possessiveness
This refers exclusively to people who are very close to a Cancer. They have no possessiveness when it comes to material things. They can become so clingy in romantic (but also familial) relationships that it can be a burden to other people.
This is not easy to live with, so people around Cancer can get nervous and quite often want to run away. Healthy moderation is the key here.
Leo: Vanity
Although Lions are two-legged optimists and the best cheerleaders, popularity can get a little too much for them. It’s not uncommon for them to have an ego trip and king complex, thinking that they are the best and flawless. For other people, such behavior can be exhausting, especially for the Leo’s partner.
After all, you should always praise them and do everything for them, because that’s normal when someone is so perfect. This quickly becomes too hard to handle and their partners have to flee to save themselves.
Virgo: skepticism
These great thinkers of the zodiac like to analyze and doubt. This is perfect for science, but it’s difficult to deal with in love and everyday life. Not only for their partners, but also for Virgos themselves.
Other people can feel observed and analyzed in the company of Virgos. This is why they are constantly stressful and under pressure. This skepticism towards everyone and everything means that their partners cannot relax and constantly feel that they will never be good enough.
Libra: Idealization
That doesn’t sound so bad if Libra is already in the relationship. But only then does it get really bad. Libras have this tendency to imagine everything is better than it is. But if they eventually see that things aren’t exactly like that, they won’t be disappointed and sad, as you might think.
Instead, they will try to correct or improve the situation (and even worse, the people) so that they can fit in again in their imagination. When their partner realizes this, they will rightly wonder if the Libra likes them or just their idea of them. This can be painful.
Scorpio: Jealousy
Similar to Crayfish, Scorpios also have this possessiveness towards people they love. However, they will rarely or never let this be expressed. You can sometimes tell in their irony that something is bothering them, but they usually don’t want to talk about it at all.
This is because they don’t want to appear insecure or jealous. The fact that they don’t show it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist. Any suppressed emotions may have to erupt and their partner won’t know what to do.
Sagittarius: Expectations
These fire signs have great expectations of themselves to begin with. So we’re not surprised that they expect the same from their partners. However, these can become excessively high and drown their partner.
It would be better if they could find a way to lift their partners up or serve as a role model themselves for what they want their partner to achieve. Otherwise, people will run away from it as no one would want to be under that much pressure voluntarily.
Capricorn: Accessibility
All earth signs are a little withdrawn and reserved, especially towards new people. Capricorns, however, are champions at this sport. And why? Even when they’re in a relationship, it’s extremely difficult for them to open up and talk about their feelings, fears and desires.
Asking the other side about it doesn’t happen that often either (or at all). Patience and effort are needed to peel back all the layers of Capricorn. For most, however, this is too exhausting and time-consuming.
Aquarius: bluntness
Directness and open communication are good aspects of this air sign. However, these only work when it’s not about their feelings or fears. Then they don’t speak so openly and bluntly. This on the side, this trait can come across as brashness and inappropriateness and too often feel too harsh.
Anyway, they should take more into consideration the feelings of others when communicating, especially asking something. Otherwise, people might never get to know the super fun side of Aquarius.
Pisces: Nostalgia
This doesn’t just mean something like homesickness, although that often happens with Pisces. The nostalgia they cultivate is for the good old days. Everything used to be better and they had much more fun than they do now.
This is why Pisces talk enthusiastically about the past, because their imagination always makes these memories more beautiful than they actually are. This can be unpleasant for Pisces’ current partners, because they might think that Pisces was better off with their ex-boyfriend. This is usually true! At least that’s what Pisces think.
Final thought
My boyfriend cheated on his girlfriend.
They had a long-distance relationship, but were only together for four months. The relationship was great, at least that’s what he always said. Two things were particularly interesting to me in this story.
Firstly, when he told me this, he immediately added that he didn’t regret it. That was a little weird, but okay, I didn’t say anything. However, after they broke up, he was sad and broken for so long that I thought he was going to be sick.
Secondly, in conversation, his now ex-girlfriend told him that all her partners have cheated on her. So she knew he was going to do the same.
Well, I think people can draw something into their lives by thinking about it or talking about it all the time.
And that’s what she did.
Hopefully, she realizes that these situations will stop when she decides not to make victims of herself and avoid these negative thoughts.
As for him, he needed to see a psychologist because he also had deep rooted programs that he needed to let go of in order to have a healthy relationship in the future.
So let’s think twice before we say next time:
It’s not you, it’s me!
What are we prepared to do, to change, to undertake, so that it is no longer up to us?
Ho sempre sentito una forte connessione con il Divino fin dalla mia nascita. Come autrice e mentore, la mia missione è aiutare gli altri a trovare l'amore, la felicità e la forza interiore nei momenti più bui.